From Bitterness to Wholeness, more

In the video below, I explain a bit more what bitterness is and how it appears in our consciousness.

In this video I invite you to join our community and see why.

Fear, control, and results

I have written about this topic many times because it seems to me that our human existence revolves around this concept.

We all have and experience fear regularly, though we are rarely aware of it. We are raised by people who pass their fears onto us and we acquire our own fears depending on many factors.

As a result of our unconscious fears and dreads, we attempt to control those situations and people who we assume that they threaten us. The way we control these depends on our circumstances and personality.

Most people try to control their environment by posing their opinion on others expecting them to change accordingly. At the same time, we do not notice that our opinions are ‘ours only’, it is not the truth. Whatever we experience or conclusions we draw, they are ours, and others may draw different conclusions. We must accept that.

And this is the key. We are not ‘right’. Neither it is our job to put the world right. Our job is to heal and deal with the underlying fear that drive us to attempt to control the world so we can feel more secure.

I am a recovering ‘fear-monger’. I grew up with an enormous amount of insecurity during the insane times of a socialistic regime. I understand that depth and highs of dread and I spent a considerable amount of time investigating my own fears and others.

Unfortunately, it is impossible to ‘treat’ the results of ‘fear’ until one is willing to look in the eye of the ‘devil’ and start confronting it.

It is one of my daily practices. It is impossible to explain the devastation our untreated fear-monger creates especially in the area of our mental health and in our relationships.

Many people, unknowingly, believe that control is the way forward. Just have a look at present so called ‘geopolitics’. It is all about ‘national security’.

However, the truth is, that we project our inner fears and insecurities onto the world and expect others to ‘fix’ it for us which is impossible. The fear never dissipates, until we confront it within ourselves.

How to confront our fears?

That is the easy part. Willingness to face our fears is the journey. Gaining awareness where and what we try to control are the ‘hints’ where our greatest fears lie. As we become more aware of them, we are ready to look them in the eye and release them.

One crucial fact is that fear can only be released when we have something greater to ‘look and hold onto’, bigger than ourselves and our shared humanity. As long as you feel alone or you can only rely on another human for ‘security’, fear stays.

Only by building a relationship with something greater than ‘man’ can provide the feeling of safety and a release from the grasp of fear. We need to be able to look behind the fear. It does not matter how you call this ‘greater presence’, God, the Divine, Allah, Shiva, the Loving. What matters is the knowing that there is a source of ‘all good’ beyond our crazy world of insecurities.

30 days with Hildegard von Bingen

daily meditation and contemplation with an 11th century mystic

Read about it on the blog CLICK HERE

The program runs for 30 days, from the 16th of January to the 14 February, 2026

Though she was a medieval Christian mystic and nun she believed in practical spirituality and daily contemplative practice that is relevant to one’s life. As you will see the daily sharing she offers for us to contemplate is rather ‘relevant’. For example, some days we are asked to contemplate on our choices in life, on other days, we will contemplate on how we view our own sexuality.

She created a daily practice schedule with short daily meditative prayers of her visionary messages that we will do at the start of the day. And then there will be exercises suggested for the end of the day, too.

Short video introduction CLICK HERE

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PRACTICALITIES

Each morning around 5am CET a short video will be posted on our YOUTUBE and TIKTOK channels introducing a short meditation and the text for daily contemplation. Then in the evening, around 5pm CET another short video will be posted with the evening contemplations.

The source of the program is Let there be light by Hildegard de Bingen

SUGGESTIONS

The purpose of this program is to open a gate for you to gain spiritual insight and wisdom. We are all connected to the Source/Divine Presence/God (use your own word). It is a kind of video book for a special kind of spiritual journey that offers insight and guidance. Please remember that this program intends to ‘free’ your spirit not to confine it so please go with what feels right. I offer a structure for you but you do not need to follow it if it does not work for you.

Don’t be surprised if you understand nothing. Understanding is not the point! Go with what feels right, simply allow Spirit to guide you through the next 30 days.

30 days with Hildegard von Bingen – DAY 8

daily meditation and contemplation with an 11th century mystic

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The program runs for 30 days, from the 16th of January to the 14 February, 2026

Short video introduction CLICK HERE

DAY 8

AM VIDEO

PM VIDEO

PRACTICALITIES

The source of the program is Let there be light by Hildegard de Bingen

SUGGESTIONS

Don’t be surprised if you understand nothing. Understanding is not the point! Go with what feels right, simply allow Spirit to guide you through the next 30 days.

30 days with Hildegard von Bingen – DAY 7

daily meditation and contemplation with an 11th century mystic

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The program runs for 30 days, from the 16th of January to the 14 February, 2026

Short video introduction CLICK HERE

DAY 7

AM VIDEO

PM VIDEO

PRACTICALITIES

The source of the program is Let there be light by Hildegard de Bingen

SUGGESTIONS

Don’t be surprised if you understand nothing. Understanding is not the point! Go with what feels right, simply allow Spirit to guide you through the next 30 days.

30 days with Hildegard von Bingen – DAY 6

daily meditation and contemplation with an 11th century mystic

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The program runs for 30 days, from the 16th of January to the 14 February, 2026

Short video introduction CLICK HERE

DAY 6

AM VIDEO

PM VIDEO

PRACTICALITIES

The source of the program is Let there be light by Hildegard de Bingen

SUGGESTIONS

Don’t be surprised if you understand nothing. Understanding is not the point! Go with what feels right, simply allow Spirit to guide you through the next 30 days.

30 days with Hildegard von Bingen – DAY 5

daily meditation and contemplation with an 11th century mystic

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The program runs for 30 days, from the 16th of January to the 14 February, 2026

Short video introduction CLICK HERE

DAY 5

AM VIDEO

PM VIDEO

PRACTICALITIES

The source of the program is Let there be light by Hildegard de Bingen

SUGGESTIONS

Don’t be surprised if you understand nothing. Understanding is not the point! Go with what feels right, simply allow Spirit to guide you through the next 30 days.

30 days with Hildegard von Bingen – DAY 4

daily meditation and contemplation with an 11th century mystic

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The program runs for 30 days, from the 16th of January to the 14 February, 2026

Short video introduction CLICK HERE

DAY 4

AM VIDEO

PM VIDEO

CONTEMPLATION AUDIO

PRACTICALITIES

The source of the program is Let there be light by Hildegard de Bingen

SUGGESTIONS

Don’t be surprised if you understand nothing. Understanding is not the point! Go with what feels right, simply allow Spirit to guide you through the next 30 days.

30 days with Hildegard von Bingen – DAY 3

daily meditation and contemplation with an 11th century mystic

Read about it on the blog CLICK HERE

The program runs for 30 days, from the 16th of January to the 14 February, 2026

Short video introduction CLICK HERE

DAY 3

AM VIDEO

PM VIDEO

CONTEMPLATION AUDIO

PRACTICALITIES

The source of the program is Let there be light by Hildegard de Bingen

SUGGESTIONS

Don’t be surprised if you understand nothing. Understanding is not the point! Go with what feels right, simply allow Spirit to guide you through the next 30 days.

30 days with Hildegard von Bingen – DAY 2

daily meditation and contemplation with an 11th century mystic

Read about it on the blog CLICK HERE

The program runs for 30 days, from the 16th of January to the 14 February, 2026

Short video introduction CLICK HERE

DAY 2

AM VIDEO

PM VIDEO

CONTEMPLATION AUDIO

PRACTICALITIES

Each morning around 5am CET a short video will be posted on our YOUTUBE and TIKTOK channels introducing a short meditation and the text for daily contemplation. Then in the evening, around 5pm CET another short video will be posted with the evening contemplations.

The source of the program is Let there be light by Hildegard de Bingen

SUGGESTIONS

Don’t be surprised if you understand nothing. Understanding is not the point! Go with what feels right, simply allow Spirit to guide you through the next 30 days.

30 days with Hildegard von Bingen – DAY 1

daily meditation and contemplation with an 11th century mystic

Read about it on the blog CLICK HERE

The program runs for 30 days, from the 16th of January to the 14 February, 2026

Short video introduction CLICK HERE

DAY 1

AM VIDEO

PM VIDEO

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cu_ik3-2YpI

Please find the video further below

CONTEMPLATION AUDIO

PRACTICALITIES

The source of the program is Let there be light by Hildegard de Bingen

SUGGESTIONS

Don’t be surprised if you understand nothing. Understanding is not the point! Go with what feels right, simply allow Spirit to guide you through the next 30 days.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cu_ik3-2YpI

30 days with Hildegard von Bingen

The story of Hildegard von Bingen

the daily meditation and contemplation program starts on 16 january 2026

Watch a short video introduction

Hildegard of Bingen lived between 1098-1179. She was a benedictine nun with extraordinary talent and accomplishment that have made her a source of inspiration and admiration. She was a mystic an a visionary, but she was also a prophet, a reformer, a scientist, an encyclopedist, a composer, and a dramatist – a Renaissance personality well before the Renaissance.

She wrote numerous books on various subject such as natural science, animals, natural medicine, holistic health, music, theology and her powerful spiritual visions.

She stands out from mystics as well who mostly wrote out of an intense personal experience of God. Instead Hildegard was a visionary and a prophet. She does not use the ‘divine-spouse’ approach to spirituality. She invites us through her insights to seek to penetrate the mystery of God and to live consciously in Its presence day by day.

Though she was a medieval Christian mystic and nun she believed in practical spirituality and daily contemplative practice that is relevant to one’s life. As you will see the daily sharing she offers for us to contemplate is rather ‘relevant’. Some days we are asked to contemplate on our choices in life, on other days, we will contemplate on how we view our own sexuality.

She created a daily practice schedule with short daily meditative prayers of her visionary messages that we will do at the start of the day. And then there will be exercises suggested for the end of the day, too.

The program runs for 30 days, from the 16th of January to the 14 February, 2026

PRACTICALITIES

Each morning around 5am CET a short video will be posted on our YOUTUBE, INSTA, and TIKTOK channels introducing a short meditation and the text for daily contemplation. Then in the evening, around 5pm CET another short video will be posted with the evening contemplations.

The source of the program is Let there be light by Hildegard de Bingen

WHAT ARE WE GOING TO DO?

Reading, reflecting and Praying is the three-fold activity that we will be doing daily. I will read out a two-part message for you so you can listen to it in a meditative posture. You are asked to contemplate on the message and use the mantra throughout the day and make notes for yourself on your discoveries. In the evening there will be a closing prayer.

Every morning and evening set aside a few quiet moments (about 5-6min) where you can listen to the video without disruption.

If you can write down the mantra of the day and read it out for yourself regularly and just observe what happens.

SUGGESTIONS

The purpose of this program is to open a gate for you to gain spiritual insight and wisdom. We are all connected to the Source/Divine Presence/God (use your own word). It is a video book for a special kind of spiritual journey that offers insight and guidance. Please remember that this program intends to ‘free’ your spirit not to confine it so please go with what feels right. I offer a structure for you but you do not need to follow it if it does not work for you.

Don’t be surprised if you understand nothing. Understanding is not the point! Go with what feels right, simply allow Spirit to guide you through the next 30 days.

How does change occur?

That witticism — I’ll call it “Einstein Insanity” — is usually attributed to Albert Einstein. Though the Matthew effect may be operating here.*

I often hear people talk about wanting to have more fulfilling experiences or to attract different types of people and opportunities or to have more income. It is admirable that we consider making changes.

For making lasting change, however, wishing is not enough. As we are habitual creatures and we are often unaware of our repeated thoughts and actions that actually generate our daily life experiences, making changes can be tricky.

Change is personal

When it comes to change, in my experience, we need to understand where we individually need to make specific changes. First of all, it requires a deep look within our own patterns of behaviours and their results. We need to understand how we generate the experiences we are having right now. What do I believe about myself, others, the world and the Divine so I have these specific experiences? Then we need to start making some changes in areas where we wish to have happier and more fulfilling experiences.

The trap of ‘Divine Order’

God (the Divine Presence, the Loving, the Loving energy) does not make changes in our lives. We do by thinking and behaving differently. God walks our journey with us but we are required to walk our individualized journey and take the learning from our experiences. God’s main wish for us is to know us as God (sons/daughters of God) and know that we are Loved (not the human kind of love) and that we are One with All. Divine Order is not Fate. In my experience, Divine Order means acceptance of the highest order. I am not to fight my experiences or make them wrong. They are there to teach me.

The first step to any change is acceptance of what is. Then I am to look at my flaws, the habits that do not work for me any more with Compassionate and Loving eyes. That is Divine Order. I accept God’s Love for me JUST AS I AM.

Then I start releasing the limitations that hinder me from having the experiences I would truly like to have. Finally, I start to BEHAVE DIFFERENTLY. This is the CREATIVE part of change. God does not tell us what we need to do exactly so to have different experiences. We must start experimenting.

This part of the CHANGE JOURNEY is about interchanging between release and course-correct. I keep on releasing old patterns and try different new ways of thinking and being.

God (the Loving energy of the Source) walks with me encouraging me and cheering for me! Eventually, through the inner and outer journey I have walked, I arrive to new experiences. Change has taken place.

Mi segít igazán?

Nem látunk a jövőbe és nincsen olyan, hogy a sorsunk meg van írva.

Vannak karakter jegyeink, amelyekhez segítséget kaphatunk különféle személyiség típus leírásokból (én az enneagrammot kedvelem a legjobban) és vannak élet feladataink, amelyekhez az asztrológia jellegű tudományok adnak egy kis eligazodást. (Természetesen, rengeteg más eszköz van még, ami segít a spirituális úton.)

Azonban a legfontosabb feladatunk az életben, Isteni önvalónk megtalálása valamint megélése az élet tapasztalatinkon keresztül.

Minden rendszer általánosít, még az asztrológia és a Human Design rendszerek is, amelyekhez a pontos születési helyet és dátumot is meg kell adjuk. Önvalónkra találni azonban csak is befelé forduláson és önmegfigyelésen keresztül lehetséges. Sokat segít ha vannak az életünkben olyan emberek, akik szeretetteljesen adnak visszajelzést nekünk, de ezek a megfigyelések is egy személyes filteren mennek keresztül.

Minden élethelyzet egy alkalom arra, hogy önreflexiót tartsunk, főleg, ha ebben a helyzetben valamilyen ‘negatív’ élményt élünk meg. Ezek a ‘trigger’ helyzetek. Ezek mutatják meg legjobban, hogy hol dolgozzunk magunkon, hol vannak karmatikus lerakodások bennünk, és merre van az út ‘felfelé’.

Mint egy korábbi posztomban írtam, az a fajta spiritualitás, amit én képviselek, talán hívhatnám úgy is, hogy ‘út a Szeretetteljességbe’, az egységről szól, a ‘felfelé törekvésről’. Bár fontos, hogy az életünket annak teljességében éljük, a célunk mégsem az, hogy például milliomosok legyünk, hanem az, hogy megszabaduljunk békjóinktól. A meszabadulás és egysége törékvés egy magasabb rendű egységgel, amit én Istennek vagy Isteni Szeretetnek nevezek, maga a boldogság élménye, többet ad mint milliomosnak lenni, mert nyugalommal és békesség érzettel telít el, azzal a tudattal, hogy minden OK, nem vagyok egyedül. Ezt pénzzel nem lehet megvenni.

Ez a legszebb feladat az életben, megtalálni, ami isteni, egyedi, megismételhetetlen, a szeretet egy szikrája bennünk, és megélni azt.

Viszont, az én tapasztalatom szerint, ezt csak benső munkával lehet elérni. És ez a benső munka leginkább megfigyeléseken, tudatosodáson, meditáció valamilyen formáján, elengedésen, és megbocsátáson keresztül lehetséges. A munka belül van. Minden más csak eszköz.

Mit feljebb írtam, senki nem tudja a jövőt. Bármilyen is a csillagok állása, mi maguk ‘döntjük el’ (sajnos gyakran tudattalanul), hogy mit hozzon a jövő. Ami a tudatunkba van rejtve, az fog majd megjelenni előttünk az életünkben. Minél jobban megismerjük rejtett zugainkat, hajandóak vagyunk szembenézni a félelmeinkkel és limitációinkkal (az ego struktúránk miértjeivel), és elengedni mindazt, ami már nem működik, annál jobb az esélyünk arra, hogy boldog és békés életet látunk majd megjelenni a jelenünkben és a jövőnkben. Amint rátalálunk és megéljük az ‘Istenit’ önmagunkban, kiegyensúlyozottabbnak és boldogabbnak fogjuk érezni magunkat.

Szívesen beszélgetek a hogyanokról.

Szeretettel,
Pásztor Kudlik
Unity in Europe
Unity, gyakorlatias spiritualitás a mindennapokban.

Hogyan jussak oda?

Nem látunk a jövőbe és nincsen olyan, hogy a sorsunk meg van írva.

Azonban a legfontosabb feladatunk az életben, Isteni önvalónk megtalálása valamint megélése az élet tapasztalatinkon keresztül.

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Hogyan?

Kis gyerek korom óta zavar, amikor valaki szépeket mond, vagy idéz a nagyoktól, de nem mondja meg, hogy hogyan használjam ezeket a szépen hangzó gondolatokat. DE HOGYAN? – kérdeztem mindig, –DE HOGYAN CSINÁLJAM? ‘Hát azt majd neked kell kitalálnod!’ – hangzott az okos válasz. Nos, azt gondolom, hogy van igazság benne, van olyan eleme a ‘saját út’-nak, amelyet mindig magunknak kell kijárnunk, de a praktikus tanács mindig jól jön, főleg a kezdeteknél.

Azt látom, hogy a világ tele van Gurukkal, mély gondolatokat idézünk a nagyoktól, elmélázunk rajtuk, de valahogy nem történik változás. Azért nem, mert elmélkedni nem elegendő. Ahogy Váci Mihály mondta: “Tenni, tenni kell!”

Ha tényleges változást akarunk látni az életünkben, praktikus dolgokat kell keresnünk. Itt az ideje, hogy alkalmazzuk mindazt, amit megtanultunk, amit már jó ideje tudunk. Nincs szükség egy következő könyvre vagy egy újabb kurzusra. Itt az ideje beépíteni a tudásunkat.

DE HOGYAN?

Lehet hihetetlenül hangzik, de a praktikus nem jelent azt, hogy valami grandiózus. A praktikus azt jelenti, hogy valamit – akár egy apró dolgot – másképpen csinálunk, mint eddig, kipróbálunk valami újat, például, leülünk pár percre meditálni vagy imádkozni akár milyen kényelmetlen is … egy kis energiát fektetni abba, hogy azzá az emberré válhassunk, akivé szeretnénk. (mármint, ha szeretnénk másképpen élni, érezni, boldogulni)

Ma már tudjuk, hogy a spirituális vagy lelki élet nagyon fontos eleme a boldogulásunknak. Minden nagy tanító ugyan arról beszélt, ugyan azt mondta, és javasolta: meditálj!, imádkozz!, erősíts meg jó dolgokat magadban!, engedd el, ami nem működik!, bocsáss meg!, … ezek mind igék!

Az elmúlt hetekben, naponta osztottam meg posztokat, mind az angol, mind a magyar nyelvű csoportban, amelyekben érdekes GYAKORLATOKAT javasoltam, amelyek segítenek beépíteni a megszerzett tudást. Gyakorlattá teszi azt és változást generál. Az apró feladatok maximum 5 percet vesznek igénybe. A rendszeresség az ami a változást hozza!

ÉS TÉNYLEG MEGHOZZA! Az aki szán egy kis időt magára, a benső életére nap mind nap, nagy változásokat fog észlelni a közérzetében. Lehet a világ nem változik meg körülöttünk, de mi másképpen fogjuk látni a világot, az egészen bizonyos!

Karácsony körül sokat beszélünk a szeretetről. De mit teszünk valójában a szeretet megéléséért? Nekem úgy tűnik, hogy leginkább frusztráltak vagyunk. Ha ránézünk a feladatokra, amiket naponta megosztottam, látni fogjuk, hogy abban igyekeznek támogatni bennünket, hogy nyugodtak tudjuk maradni az őrült forgatagban és egyre letisztultabbak legyünk kapcsolatainkban, és az életünkkel kapcsolatban.

Gondoljuk végig, hogy ha a szeretet cselekedne, mit tenne? Mi az, amit fontos elengednünk – de tényleg – ebben az időszakban ahhoz, hogy változzon az élet-élményünk? A feladatok segítenek ebben és támogatnak abban, hogy önmagunk ‘legjobb változatává válhassunk és ezáltal boldogabbak lehessünk.

Az egyetlen dolog, amire szükségünk van, az egy támogató közösség, az utat magunknak kell járnunk.

Kívánok mindenkinek Boldog, Békés Ünnepeket!

Pásztor Kudlik

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HOW TO?

Since I was a small child, I have always found it annoying when someone gave me ‘great advice’ that sounded all around fantastic but the one thing it did not tell you is HOW TO DO IT?

‘You have to figure it out for yourself!’ – I was told. Well… I suppose it is true in some ways. The exact HOW needs to be ‘fine-tuned’ to my taste and specifications, so to speak. But practical guidance is a MUST!

In my observation, the world is full of great thoughts that we seem to quote with tears in our eyes. Unfortunately, understanding a good idea does not make any real difference in our lives. If we want to make a change, it must be through something practical. We cannot just lament the thoughts of great people hoping that it will somehow make a change. We must ACT upon what we know or understand from the greats!

Practical does not mean grandiose, it simply means doing something, doing something differently, and making a change towards who you want to become.

Over the past 22 days, I have been posting daily tasks to support you to ‘evolve spiritually’. (if you want to) All the great spiritual teachers and Gurus tell us to be practical in our spiritual quest: meditate, pray, affirm, release, forgive … these are all VERBS!

This time of year, we talk a lot about LOVE but do we actually do it? How does LOVE act? When you look at the tasks I have offered you will see that they hope to help you release all the baggage that holds you back from being the ‘best person’ you can be which also means from your HAPPINESS.

I wish you a wonderful holiday seasons,

Baruch Bashan,

Rev Ildiko

Read my post on HOW TO FACE AND RELEASE OUR FEARS here (click)

Facing fears

You may not credit this but our freedom from our challenges lies in our facing our fears. I know it sounds both weird and unbelievable. I did not believe it myself either, until I tried.

Fear is not a ‘thing’ that we can ‘meet’ in the physical really. Fear is sneaky and it lies low. Depending on the nature of our fears, they appear in the areas of our life where we are in a cave, in the darkness.

Facing our fears means ‘letting the light in’. It may appear in way of actually doing something to face our fears or in meditation we consciously release ‘specific’ aspects of our fear.

What to do?

For example – if you have a fear of looking ridiculous because you have low self-esteem and your self-image requires you to look cool so nobody will notice your low-self esteem, what you need to do is to look ridiculous. Just do what feels most uncomfortable. It is very much like stepping outside your comfort zone.

I am not saying it is easy but it is quick. It is liberating to do something we have so far feared to do. Just do it anyway.

The situation is more tricky, if the fear is an ’emotional’ such as anxiety around our abilities regarding future events or insecurity e.g. financial. It is often that we need to face this kind of fears in meditation and affirmative prayer. It means that we focus into the fear centre which is our self-talk. We listen in as our ‘fearful’ mind tells us his/her horror stories. As we notice the ‘figure’ of the fear, we start imaging a bright golden light shining down on us. We gently usher the ‘fear figure’ into the light and simply allow it to be lifted up and turn into star-dust.

Please remember to BE KIND AND GENTLE with yourself when to attempt to face your fears. Though our freedom lies beyond the fear, you should not fight your fears or try to demolish them. They are there to protect you, except you do not need that kind of protection any more. You are an adult now. You can deal with the world on your own terms.

When the ‘fear figure’ is gone with the golden light, we can start with our affirmative payer. We need to replace the ‘negative elf-talk’ with positive ones. For example, when I am anxious about my abilities, after I have done the ‘golden light’ release, I start creating affirmations such as, “I allow Life/God to support me.” “I am supported and cared for.” The affirmative sentences must sit ‘right’ with you. They must give you a sense of ease and reassurance. Sit in meditation, pray the way that works for you and find your affirmative sentences.

A few words about the cave

So, throughout our entire existence, we live in a ‘cave’ because there is not much ‘inner light’ shining here. The cave is also our body and the various energy layers that surround our physical body. They all belong to the ‘mortal world’. It is dark here because we are not connected with the light that is not of this ‘world. This light is called the Light of Spirit or the Light of God.

As we start liberating ourselves from our limitations and fears we start letting ‘light’ into the our cave. The door of the cave starts opening and we start feeling lighter, happier, more alive, and more connected.

Remember, the Light can only start shining in if you open the door. And you open the door by starting to remove the ‘blocks’ of fear and self-imposed limitations.

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Ismertem Jóskát. Nagyon kedveltem. Jó tanító volt. Érdekes ember. Újító. Merész.

A fenti mondása elgondolkodtatott. Mekkora nagy dolog lenne, ha az emberiségnek csupán a 10% megértené, hogy mit is jelent ez a fenti mondat.

A személyes felelősség gondolata, mint valami érthetetlen és megoldhatatlan Rubik-kocka mered az emberek többsége előtt. ‘Micsoda?’ ‘Mi közöm van nekem ehhez?’ ‘Én ott se voltam!’ ‘Én erről semmit sem tudtam!’ ‘Nem én választottam őket!’ stb.

És mégis. Minden, amiben jelen vagyunk, ott vagyunk. Ott vannak az energiáink, a félelmeink, a döntéseink, a gondolataink, a hitrendszerünk. És ezzekkel hozzájárulunk mindenhez, ami jelen van az életünkben.

Ha nem tetszik amit látunk, itt az ideje másként gondolkodnunk róla; itt az ideje megnéznünk – ahogy Jóska írta – hogy hogyan van jelen önmagunkon belül a ‘világ bűne, illetve az ami nem tetszik nekünk a világban.

Amikor egy dühöngő embert hallgatok nagy lendülettel becsmérelni másokat, mindig azon tűndődöm, hogy kire haragszik igazán. Leginkább önmagára, meg apjára, anyjára, a feldolgozatlan múltra … valamire, amit valószínűleg nem lát. Itt a felelősség kulcsa. Mert akié a düh, ott van a kulcs is, nem a világban.

Talán itt az ideje változtatni!

Mit szeretnék inkább megélni a világban?

A Guru szindróma

Vajon miért gondoljuk azt, hogy valaki más, még akkor is ha úgy tűnik többet tud nálunk egy területen, megtudja nekünk mondani vagy mutatni saját igazságainkat és azt, hogy mi működik nekünk?

Jó dolog tanulni másoktól, és tudni hogy valaki már járt előttünk egy hasonló úton, mint, amelyre mi most készülünk. De az az út, amit én járok, az csak az enyém. Nem követhetem mások útmutatását. Bár lehet hogy a Guru, aki nagy igazságokra lelt rá, mégsem az én utamat járta. A guru egy vezető vagy útmutató lehet csak. A tanításai értékesek, mert támogatni akar abban, hogy megtaláld a saját utadat. A guru, aki meg akarja neked mondani, hogy miről mit gondoljon, nem őszinte. Csak saját igazságainak megerősítését keresi általad. Tudd, hogy annyi út vezet Istenhez (a szeretetteljességbe), ahány ember létezik a Földön.

Csak egyetlen igazság van a világon, a többi igazság sajátos. És ez az egy igazság az, hogy ‘Én és Isten (az isteni szeretetteljesség, az isteni energia, az Univerzum) egyek vagyunk. (az isteni energia bennem él). Ezt, a guruk közül, Jézus mondta ki a legegyszerűbben:

A közösség, a megosztás lehetősége, az az tudat, hogy nem vagyok egyedül, és hogy mások támogatnak az egyéni utamon, fontosabb minden gurunál. A tanítások már kint vannak a világban az internet segítségével. Az a legfontosabb, hogy megtaláljuk azt, ami működik nekünk egy adott pillanatban és, hogy tudjunk változni, fejlődni továbblépni, új utakat keresve.

A közösségben erő van, támogatás, és hitelesség. A csoportvezetője nem guru, hanem a csoport vezetője! Nem okosabb másnál, nem tud többet másnál, nem megvilágosodottabb másnál, egyszerűen csak felvállalta a vezető szerepét, hogy ‘lehessen a csoport’, hogy biztonságban érezhessük magunkat, ő az aki tartja a fókuszt, tartja a lángot. Ennyi.

A Guru, te magad vagy!

Utóirat:

‘A kövess engem’ mítosza

Bár úgy tűnhet mintha a nagy tanítók azt mondták volna, hogy ‘kövess engem’, de valójában ez, azt jelentette, hogy nézd a példámat és találd meg a saját utadat. A tanítás nem ugyan az, mint az ember. A tanítást követni egy tudatos választás (remélhetőleg) eredménye. Minden nagy tanító ugyan arról beszélt, ugyan azokat a tanításokat adta az embereknek át más-más formátumban.

Egyetlen tanító sem kéri a tanítványaitól, hogy kövessék őt személy szerint. Ez sajnos egy félreértés eredménye. Minden tanító olyan, mint egy jó szülő: azt szeretné, ha a ‘gyermekei’ megtalálnák a saját útjukat az ‘Atyához’ (Istenhez, a Mindenhatóhoz, az Univerzumhoz, az Istenihez, a Jelenléthez, stb.) azáltal, hogy jól használják a tanításokat. Ezek a tanítások megtalálhatóak szinte minden nagyobb vallás kiadványaiban.

Luca hete, 9-13 December

Magam részéről, nagyon szeretek ‘rituálékat’ csinálni. Figyelem és igyekszek részt venni mindenféle ünnepeken, legyen az Hindu, Zsidó, Keresztény, vagy pogány ünnep. A héten Luca napra készülünk. Egy facebook oldalon találtam egy rituálét, ami nagyon megtetszett. Mikor elolvastam úgy éreztem, hogy ki akartom próbálni. Azonban, sajnos nem vagyok ‘jó boszorkány’ így inkább egy olyan variációt csináltam meg, amely jobban illik a személyiségemhez. De ne vágjunk a dolgok elejébe!

Miről is szól Luca-hete és Luca-nap?

Luca-napot december 13.-án ünnepeljük.

Ez az időszak a sötét évszak legmélye, amikor a nap még rövidebb, a fény „a föld alatt jár”, az élet láthatatlanul készül a megszületésre. Ez a hét átmenet, küszöb, beavatás ideje – amikor a láthatatlan világ közelebb kerül a láthatóhoz.

Luca napja a leghosszabb éjszaka időszakához kapcsolódik, amely régen az év “legsötétebb pontjának” számított. Ez az idő a fény lassú visszatérésének kapuja – ezért sok hagyományban tekintették a láthatatlan világok, intuíció és belső látás idejének.A Luca név a latin ‘lux’ szóból ered; jelentése “fény”. Emiatt, ennek az időszaknak az üzenete: “A fény a legsötétebb időben kezd növekedni.”

Néhány érdekesség:

A fény születése a sötétségből
Luca napja azt jelképezi, hogy:
* Nem várjuk a külső megváltót — mi hozzuk a fényt.
* A remény nem a körülményekből jön — belülről fakad.
* Minden nagy átalakulás sötétben indul (méh, mag, éjszaka, álom).
A belső munka nem látszik kívülről, mégis ettől változik minden.

Luca széke — a lassú, láthatatlan alkotás szimbóluma
A hagyomány szerint Luca székét 13 napig készítették, és karácsony éjjelén megmutatta, ki a boszorkány.
Spirituális jelentése:
*A Luca-szék az idő, türelem és belső munka jelképe.
*Csendben készül a felismerés eszköze.
*em a külső szem működik, hanem a belső látás.

Üzenet:
A megértés akkor születik, amikor már képes vagy látni azt, ami eddig láthatatlan volt.

A legnagyobb sötétségben kezd növekedni a fény — először belül.

Szóval, miután megcsináltam a magam szabta rituálét úgy döntöttem, hogy megosztom másokkal is. Alább olvasható az általam átformált ‘fényből a sötétségbe’ rituálé.

VIZUALIZÁCIÓ

Csukd be a szemed és képzelj el nagyobbacska üstöt, ami alatt tűz ég. Egy sötét barlanban vagy, amit megvilágít a lobogó tűz. Egy főzetet fogsz készíteni. Az alapanyagokat egyesével fogod beleönteni az üsbe. Minden alapanyag egy-egy minőséget hordoz, amit meg fogsz erősíteni magadban egy megerősítő mondat formájában. Hét különféle anyagot és fűszert fogsz az üstbe tenni. Képzeld el, hogy folyamatosan kevered össze az alapanyagokat, amint teszed őket egymás utána az üstbe.

Az első alapanyag: BOR

A megerősítő mondat, amit mondogatsz mialatt beletöltöd az üstbe és összekevered a többi anyaggal:

MENGEDEM, HOGY AZ ISTNI REND VISSZATÉRJEN BELÉM.

A második alapanyag: FAHÉJ

A megerősítő mondat, amit mondogatsz mialatt beletöltöd az üstbe és összekevered a többi anyaggal:

BELEÁLLOK BENSŐ ISTENI LÉNYEMBE

A harmadik alapanyag: CITROMHÉJ

A megerősítő mondat, amit mondogatsz mialatt beletöltöd az üstbe és összekevered a többi anyaggal:

A FÉNY MEGÉRINTI A SÖTÉTSÉGET BENNEM.

A negyedik alapanyag: GYÖMBÉR

A megerősítő mondat, amit mondogatsz mialatt beletöltöd az üstbe és összekevered a többi anyaggal:

FELÉBRESZTEM, AMI ÉLNI AKAR BENNEM.

Az ötödik alapanyag: SZERECSENDIÓ

A megerősítő mondat, amit mondogatsz mialatt beletöltöd az üstbe és összekevered a többi anyaggal:

A HATÁRAIM VÉDETTEK.

A hatodik alapanyag: ÉDESÍTŐ

A megerősítő mondat, amit mondogatsz mialatt beletöltöd az üstbe és összekevered a többi anyaggal:

MEGBÉKÉLEK AZZAL AMI MÖGÖTTEM VAN.

A hetedik alapanyag: SZEGFŰSZEG

A megerősítő mondat, amit mondogatsz mialatt beletöltöd az üstbe és összekevered a többi anyaggal:

REND VAN BENNEM ÉS KÖRÜLÖTTEM.

Majd képzeld el, hogy kevergeted az üstben forró füszereket, hogy főzetté válhassanak. Amikor úgy érzed, hogy készen van, vegyél egy mély lélegzetet és nyisd ki a szemedet.

December 9-12 között minden nap csináld végig a fenti vizualizációt, vagy akár újra razolhatot az üstöt és beleirogathatod a megerősítő mondatokat.

Majd december 12.-én este, miután végig csináltad az alap rituálét, a végén még tedd hozzá az alábbi megerősítő mondatot.

ELENGEDEM, AMI NEM JÖHET ÁT VELEM AZ ÚJ FÉNYBE.

Csukd be a szemed és hagyd, hogy a fűszerek illata, a főzet illata, valamint a megerősítő mondatok energijája átjárják teljes lényedet tetőtől talpig. Maradj így pár percet (5 perc). Majd nyisd ki a szemedet.

December 13.-án este, miután végig csináltad az alap rituálét, a végén még tedd hozzá az alábbi megerősítő mondatot.

AZ ÁRNYÉKOM MÖGÖTT IS VALÓSÁGOM RAGYOG.

Csukd be a szemed és hagyd, hogy a fűszerek illata, a főzet illata, valamint a megerősítő mondatok energiája átjárják teljes lényedet tetőtől talpig. Maradj így pár percet (5 perc). Majd nyisd ki a szemedet. Tudd, hogy beteljesedett, amit megerősítettél magadban az elmúlt héten.

Forrás: Csontasszony (a blogban egy hosszabb rituálé volt leírva, amit átfabrikáltam, megtartva (remélhetőleg) a ritálé identitását.

Ha van kedved a fenti rituálét összekötheted egy benső lelki úttal is. Kibővítheted a rituálé idejét az alábbi feladatok elvégzésével, meditálással, valamint kontemplálással. Minden napra javasoltam egy-egy plusz szellemi gyakorlatot.

Luca hete – 5 Napos Benső Út

Luca hete az év vége előtti harmadik hét. Alapjában véve, ez a hét arra invitál bennünket, hogy nézzünk rá az életünkre és kérdezzük meg magunktól, hogy

*Mi kíván véget érni bennem?
*Mi van születőben, amit még nem látok?
*Milyen fényt fogadok be az új évbe?

1. nap – Alászállás a sötétbe

Kulcsminőség: őszinteség önmagammal
Ősi szimbólum: mag földbe kerülése
Érzet: lassulás, lecsendesedés, belső hallgatás

Meditáció (10–12 perc) – „A fekete mag”

Ülj csendben.
Képzeld el, hogy egy mag vagy a föld sötét mélyében.
Itt nincs zaj, nincs sürgetés. Csak pihenés.
Mondd magadban: „Biztonságban vagyok a sötétben is.”

Feladat

Írj egy kis papírdarabra ‘egy terhet, ami már nem visz előre’.
Tedd egy borítékba, zárd le.
A héten nem nyitod ki.

(A világ még nem tudja, hogy a mag már dolgozik.)

Journal-kérdések

* Milyen rész bennem kér csendet, nem pedig megoldást?
* Mit cipelek csak megszokásból?
* Mitől félek leginkább, ha megállok?

2. nap – A Csend Kapuja

Kulcsminőség:** meghallás, jelenlét
Szimbólum:** téli éjszaka
Érzet: tétlenség megengedése

Meditáció – „A hangok mögötti hang”*

Hallgasd 3 percig a külső zajokat.
Aztán hallgasd a tested belső hangjait.
Végül hallgasd a csendet köztük.

Feladat

Írj 5 percig folyamatosan, szűrés nélkül, mindentírj le ami az eszedbe jut.
„Mit mond a csend nekem?”
Ne gondolkodj, csak engedd.

Journal-kérdések

*Mit kerülök azzal, hogy elfoglalt vagyok?
*Hol akarok túl gyors eredményt az életben?
*Mit akarhat a csend tanítani?

3. nap – Rejtett folyamatok

Kulcsminőség: bizalom a láthatatlanban
Szimbólum: gyökérzet
Érzet: türelem, elköteleződés, engedés

Meditáció – „Gyökerezem”

Képzeld el a lábaidból lefelé induló gyökereket.
Nem rohannak. Csak kapcsolódnak.

Mondd: „Az idő nem ellenem van.”

Feladat

Tegyél egy edénybe **földet, kavicsot vagy egy ágat**.
Ez lesz a „láthatatlan munka” emlékeztetője.
Tedd olyan helyre, ahol rálátsz.

Journal-kérdések

*Milyen változás zajlik bennem láthatatlanul?
*Mihez kell most türelmesnek lennem?
*Mi az, amit engednem kell, hogy megtörténjen?

4. nap – A Fény Szándéka

Kulcsminőség: döntés, irány
Szimbólum: mécses vagy gyertya
Érzet: tisztulás, összpontosítás

Meditáció – „Egyetlen fény”*

Gyújts gyertyát.
Nézd a lángot, és csak egy kérdést tarts az elmédben:
„Mi az én fényem?”

Feladat

Fogalmazz meg ‘egy megerősítő mondatot’, ami a fényedet képviseli.

pl.:
„A jelenlétem békét hoz.”
„Teret tartok másoknak.”
„Örömmel teremtek.”
„Elég vagyok.”

Írd le tisztán, egyszerűen.

Journal-kérdések

*Ha nem félnek tőle: hogyan világítanék?
*Ki vagyok, amikor nem védekezem?
*Hogyan akarok fény lenni másoknak?

5. nap – Fénygyújtás a világban

Kulcsminőség: megosztás, jelenlét
Szimbólum: fénykéz
Érzet: megérkezés

Meditáció – „A fényem átadom”

Képzeld el: a mellkasodban fény.
Belégzéskor nő.
Kilégzéskor lágyan áramlik a világ felé.

Nem erőből.
Ajándékként.

Feladat

Tedd meg a hét legapróbb, de legőszintébb jó cselekedetét:
egy üzenet, egy mosoly, egy segítség, névtelen adomány, megbocsátás.

Ez a hét „megerősítő pecsétje”.

Journal-kérdések

*Kinek tudok ma fényt adni?
*Mi a legkisebb gesztus, ami nagy hatású lehet?
*Mit tanultam a sötétről ezen az úton?

The Inner Pathway

through the Ages; an Interfaith approach to finding Love

“The kingdom of heaven is within you” said Jesus but he was not the only spiritual teacher or guru who did so. It means that the sacred is internal, not external; that divinity, wisdom and truth reside inside of us humans; and that transformation happens within, first.

As we look at the different spiritual traditions we will see that the message of the ‘inner pathway’ is present in them all. The message may be approached and expressed a little bit differently but the core teaching is the same.

What is the teaching?

We are inherently connected with the Divine Presence, a greater reality that encompasses all there is. This presence or energy is of Loving and Light. The reason we don’t feel connected with it is because we are not aware of it. The reason behind our lack of awareness is our attention. Our attention is out-there all the time, in the world of matter and time. We are caught up in the hamster wheel of life.

How to connect to the Loving?

Well there are many ways to that. The different spiritual traditions offer various modes and tools to do that. However, one thig is common in all of them: the inner path.

Why is it important or even essential for us to connect with the Divine Presence or the Energy of Loving and Light?

Continue reading The Inner Pathway

Fear and control vs true happiness

This podcast above starts with describing Pastor Kudlik’s personal journey of chasing happiness around the globe, travelling from one place to another, in vain.

Then it delves into discussing insecurity, anxiety and fear and how it led into an obsession with control.

Fear, though we do not notice it most of the time because we often see control as an empowered state of being, takes over our life and eventually, we find that it has taken over every aspect of our life. It is exhausting.

Unity suggests that surrendering is empowering, it is not giving-up, it is not an external submission to something.

God is an energy, a higher state of being. Meditation helps connecting with inner peace and the experience of loving of God, though it is not the only way to experience the Loving.

The podcast also talks about what Unity is; the founders and fundamental teaching; and the main teaching which is a deep acceptance of our unique individuality.

An in-depth Podcast

A great discussion on Unity and its teaching offered by Rev Kudlik.

In this podcast you will hear about what Unity is and isn’t, What is true sense of happiness, the importance of forgiveness and meditation in practical terms, and about the 5-step process from Bitterness to Wholeness. (the discussion was generated by AI in an amazingly professional manner, except that it assumed that I was a male person 🙂

Practical

Meaning: of or concerned with the actual doing or use of something rather than with theory and ideas.

So practical is REAL.

I often feel that when it comes to spirituality most people believe that spiritual ideas are wacky and out of this sphere. Most people follow some preset rules or dogmas believing that they will bring salvation from doom or mortality to their souls that they do not know what that is really.

Some people believe that spirits of entities or antient creatures help their life journey to unfold for the better.

None of it is wrong. As long as it helps one to uplift and develop. The truth is that we all need to find our very own unique path, journey, tools that work for us. And if what works is holding seances with spirits then it is what it is.

My path is the path of the practical. With every spiritual teaching or idea, I ask the same questions: So how can I use this in my everyday life? How is ‘this’ going to help me cope better in my daily struggles? How is this going to support me in dealing with my relationships with more ease, etc.

HOW TO? is my way. And as an UNCOMMON PASTOR this is what I offer. Any spiritual idea, teaching, practise, ritual that does not have practical applications in my daily life, does not support me. Get in touch if you are interested in taking part in small group discussions or individual mentoring sessions with me.

Young People and God2

I received a question on the blog “YOUNG PEOPLE AND GOD” Read and listen to the blog here

It’s very interesting. I think you are right that young people are not good in really knowing themselves. They focus on outer world without looking inward. When you mention God I think on the extreme materialism as one of the causes. The focus is on the body, on the money, on the stuff you can buy with your money etc.. BUT: Do you see any connection of the visible trend (South-Nord) and the religions in these countries? It seems to me that young people in the most religious catholic countries stay at home the longest.

And here is my answer to the question.

Thank you for your thoughts!!! 🙂 Well, I think that being religious and having a relationship with God (spritual) are not the same things. In my experience the more religious (particularly Christian) someone is, the least they are in touch with themselves or God. Sadly, religion often serves as a cop-out. Following religious doctrines and rituals often prevent people from looking within, facing the inner demons, and creating a loving relationship with self and God. In my experience, most religious people fear God because religious doctrines suggest an innate impurity and sinfulness which is false. As we walk the inner journey, we discover the false ideas about ourselves and discover that God is an innate Loving being within. I often observe that rituals distract people from the inner journey that can be challenging at times. With regards to young people, my hope is that they will start questioning old fashioned ideas and start looking for their own personal relationship with God via walking the inner journey. <3

Who is the Evil?

And how are we delivered from it?

“…And lead us not into temptation; but deliver us from evil …” (Lord’s Prayer)

In my understanding the evil is not a person, neither it is outside of us. It is part of our consciousness; it seeks out and supplies proof for our beliefs that generate fear.

We tend to try to run away from the evil – the fear based consciousness – by different methods such as distracting ourselves by being very busy, controlling situations or others, not participating in life, etc. But we do not notice that it is all happening within ourselves. There is nowhere to run!

As we connect within we face the evil, as we do that, we can release it. As a result, it stops controlling and running us.

God delivers us from evil by US creating and maintaining a connection with the Divine Presence daily through prayer and meditation. Unity’s Five Principles remind us:

As we connect within and up, the grip of the fear, that we try to manage on our own, starts easing away.

So, by praying to be ‘delivered from evil’, we state that we are willing to build a relationship with the Divine Presence within. In deliverance, we can build a more peaceful and contented life together.

Example: I know someone with the fear of not having enough and of running out of resources e.g. money. This fear runs his life in a way that though he is well off, he fears using his resources in fear of running out of them. Often people with this particular fear greatly limit their life experiences by not ‘using the resources available to them’, they often strain their personal relationships, and hold back from life in fear of being ‘robbed’ or ‘manipulated’. It also prevents him from giving freely and abundantly from his resources in fear of not having enough left for him. He is petty much like Mr Scrooge! 🙂

Evil can show up in many different ways in our consciousness, but as we develop Faith in the invisible Divine Presence through connecting to It daily, we will find ourselves being delivered from Evil: it slowly dissipates into the nothingness.

Who is the Enemy?

The world is full of wars and conflicts. Most of them are wars of ideas that never change but punish the innocent. Wars and conflicts are not started by simple housewives because of having run out of butter. Conflicts are generated by a small groups of people who appear to represent the majority.

In truth our issues are never outside of us. All the issues we face regardless how they appear are generated within ourselves. It is quite likely that we can find people with similar issues but it still does not mean that the issue is outside. We, ourselves, place the issue out into the world then look for a suitable scapegoat to relieve our inner discord.

I have seen it too many times to know that when we look within and face our ‘inner enemy’ the outer disappears.

It is admittedly easier to fight an outer demon and appear heroic than following e.g. Jesus’ or Moses’ examples. They both showed great courage when they went into the wilderness to overcome their own demons and connect deeper with the Divine Presence. They did not go to war with another tribe or the phereses to relieve their frustrations. They took responsibility for themselves and set with their inner challenges until they dissipated.

Spiritual Life is made up of a series of actions. It is not a mental concept or a phantasy of glory and chimes. Some the actions are hard to do but God is there with us all the time as long as we are willing to take on the challenge.

Why bother? Well, for a start as we resolve our inner conflicts there will be less in the world. Additionally, we will experience a kind of Love that is indescribable. Love that feels like safety and warms just as much as exuberance and freedom. The rewards are much more valuable than the invested efforts.

If you are interested in having and ACTIVE SPRITUAL LIFE, get in touch!

Letting go

Letting go, practical spirituality

One of the ‘main’ teachings of any spiritual circle is the idea of LETTING GO. In a way it is the opposite of HOLDING ON or CONTROLING. It makes sense. It is impossible to make any changes in one’s life without letting go. A simple example is when you want to wear a set of new clothes, first you need to throw out (let go of) your old clothes so they would fit your wardrobe. It is the same with ideas of beliefs.

Well, is it really that easy? Does it really work the same way with beliefs as it is with clothes? The answer is NO. Letting go of beliefs is part (the last part) of a longer process.

Just because you do not like something or something makes you feel uncomfortable it does not automatically mean that you can let it go.

Fear is often a life-long companion for most of us in some form or another. Most people are not even aware of the ‘things’ that make them feel afraid. Most of our fears and anxiety stem in a belief that we picked up in our childhood. Simply claiming or affirming a life without fear will not do the job, either.

Our life is a journey of learning and unlearning until we arrive into Wholeness with the Loving that we often call God.

Recently, I became aware of a belief or pattern of behaviour that I had lived with most of my life. As I child I learnt that the way I can assure safety and care is to take on others’ responsibilities. As an adult, I often found myself outraged and angry with people who seemingly had dropped their responsibilities onto my shoulders. Later, I understood that beliefs generate experiences. Because I learnt that ‘responsibility’ is my ‘curtain call’, I attract people who prefer not to take it.

Though I have tried many times, I simply cannot release the belief or override the actions. I pray daily that I move into more freedom with my limitations and I do have affirmations that aim at releasing my sense of responsibility, but until I ACT DIFFERENTLY nothing changes.

God, in Its infinite Loving and Grace, provides us with opportunities. If we don’t take them, It eventually guides us into situations where we have no other choices but to ‘let go’.

Presently, I am in one of those ‘unavoidable’ situations. It is hard to walk it day by day. It is hard to be faced with the fear that is generated by my not taking responsibility for others. I am crazy worried that ‘they’ will screw it up and I will have to fix it so to survive. I remind myself that it is only a belief, it is not reality any more.

I know better. I know that God’s Grace walks with us all whether we are aware of it or not. There was a time when I did not feel God’s Grace. Now, I know it because I know how to tune into it.

At the same time, I know that God wants me to be free from this limitation. It wants me to be a calmer and less anxious person by allowing others to do their lives as they see fit without me interfering and fixing it for them. This is the learning or unlearning process. Until I can move my entire being into a new way of responding to familiar situations, I am actively walking the ‘letting go’ process in my own way.

Nevertheless, I do not ignore people. It is true that I do not try to save them. Just because I assume that they cannot take responsibility for their lives does not mean that I turn away from them. I keep on checking with myself if I am in ‘saving’ mode or ‘supporting’ mode. 🙂 When I feel that I am trying to save them, I consciously move into ‘letting go’ which in my case means asking God to walk with me, guide me, forgive me for not doing what I assume I should do, I cry, I meditate, I talk to a friend … and I keep on doing this until the belief dissolves into the Oneness.

In conclusion, ‘letting go’ is not words but acts. How we walk the process of release is unique to us all. We are the ones who are aware of the beliefs, the patterns, the errors and eventually the way out of it.

God walks the journey with us as long as we ask It to do so.

Let me know if you are interested in PRACTICAL SPIRITUALITY, a journey of awakening to self and God.

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Perception

We perceive the would as we see it. Everything we see around ourselves is the result of our collective consciousness that I call the Maze. It is full of unpredictable turns and unexpected dead ends. There is no place for argument of any kind because our fears and needs drive our perspective. The only way out of the Maze is by looking up and lifting one’s consciousness above the Maze.

The Maze is made up of rights and wrongs and good and bads, at the same time there isn’t a true right or a true wrong because it is all personal. As equals, we can only meet on a higher ground where we don’t look for justification of our beliefs.

Trust me, I have my own share of fears and needs and so have I my beliefs about the state of the world. But I know them to be untrue. In my case, they are mostly driven by a great need for security. I am sure, others can relate. I often see a broken world and I try to fix it. Then I remember that it is just a perception, I do not see the whole picture, not in its totality. So, I let go.

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Courageous vs daring

This morning I found myself contemplating fear.

Yesterday I found myself talking about a film called Das Leben der Anderen – see the film here CLICK – and the time of my life during the socialistic regime in Hungary. I heard myself ‘blame’ the Russians for overtaking our land and our lives. I found myself enraged again about the atrocities we had to endure.

Then it suddenly occurred to me that it is not only a far, far away past that upsets me but none of it actually exists any more.

Why am I so upset then?

I grew up at a time of terror. We were threatened for our lives at every turn. You had to watch out not to become suspect of any wrong-doing, or you may have been reported to the ‘Stasi’. Every perceived wrong-doing could be punished by imprisonment or death.

I learnt to live with dread. I became neurotic but daring. My response to fear was to challenge those threatening and punishing me. Until one day, I decided that I had had enough and fled.

Except that I took the now innate dread with me. Unknowing, I now held the threatening shadows inside myself. They never ceased to scare me, day and night. So, I continued running trying to flee the shadows.

I daringly conquered all the obstacles and challenges of my life. But I failed to notice that I lacked courage; the courage to face the one ‘enemy’ that generates all the anxiety that has been lurking in my veins.

I have tried it all. I tried to fix it and forgive it. Neither could I let go of the memory of the terror I once lived. It has become part of the vivid tapestry of who I am.

What I must do, however, is face it with courage that stems from my loving embrace. I want to find the compassion within myself that holds me while I look into the eyes of the terror and say ‘I love you, regardless!’

The Forgiveness Process

When we don’t forgive and let go of the past, we keep on re-living it.

It means that each time we are in a ‘similar’ situation to the event that once caused us distress, we keep on re-living it by being reminded of that event in the present. Until we forgive and let go of what happened in the past, our responses are tinted with the emotions generated in the past.

For example, if you had a challenging relationship with your father, it is likely that you will bring many emotions and beliefs you created as a result of that relationship about men into every relationship you have with men. You cannot see them for who they are because you place some of the beliefs and emotions created in the past on your eyes like a pair of tinted glasses.

Forgiveness is something I call Grace-Tool for Self. Forgiveness is not about judging others’ actions and graciously ‘forgiving’ their wrong-doing. In the process of forgiveness we move through different stages until we arrive to a new level of freedom.

First, we need to accept what happened just as it was. We need clarity on it. We connect with God or the Divine Presence and embrace the experience just as we had it, as we remember it. We simply accept that this event occurred and that we were part of that experience. No blaming, no shaming.

I am aware that it is easier said than done, but without this first part of the process, forgiveness cannot happen. What you want is to remove the emotional charge from the event.

This is what I do: I say to myself: I can see clearly what happened. This… and this… and this … happened. I stop blaming myself and others in this situation. I am ready to let it all go so I can become freer in myself and happier in my life experiences.

When you feel, that you are aware of and in total acceptance – not making it right or justifying! – of that particular event that you wish to forgive and release, you can move into forgiving.

Forgiving has two parts:

We must forgive our participation and contribution to the event that occurred, first. I look at where I judge myself for creating the experiences for myself. I also look at the feelings and emotions I generated during the event and forgive them. I use this sentence and fill in the end until I feel complete. “I forgive myself for judging myself for …” I look at different aspects of my ‘contribution’ to this event and my experiences of this event. I keep on doing this until I feel that the emotional charge start to dissipate.
The second part is the letting go part. I consciously move into detaching myself – mostly emotionally – from the event. I look at others’ participation, and what I blame them for. Then I consciously release the way I see their actions and participation to my destress. With that I leave the past event behind me. I say to myself: (in case someone else is involved in this event) I do not know why you did (…) and why you said (…). It is yours to handle. I acted to the best of my abilities at the time. I detach myself from this event on all levels: mentally, emotionally, physically, spiritually. I accept what happened. I stop feeling a victim. There is nothing to fix or change with this event any more. I release trying to justify or making it right for myself or others. I stop blaming myself (and you). I love myself and accept myself (and you). I release all this into the Light of Spirit and ask for total Healing.

By Grace-tool, I mean, that when forgiveness actually happens is not up to us. It is not a decision we can make. We need to keep on doing the forgiveness process until we feel the weight shifted. It is a bit like peeling an onion. When it does, we will experience a change in our responses, feelings, and actions. It is the result of forgiveness-being-done.

Until then, until the forgiveness takes place, we need to keep on going back to the past event and all the emotions, thoughts, feelings and action related to that event and keep on consciously embracing, forgiving and releasing them.

If you need support with the Forgiveness Process, please get in touch. In Loving, Rev Kudlik

Healing with Metaphysics

Ildiko@SIA · Healing with Metaphysics

Anything can be interpreted metaphysically, and by doing so, we can become aware of what stands between us and God or the Divine Presence. Every time we release or heal a blockage we become freer, happier, and lighter.

When our life is ‘challenging’ or we are facing problems, we can sit in the silence and look at what’s happening. Then, we can start ‘interpreting’ the information in terms of messages or learnings. The Spirit of God constantly communicates with us through different means such as life events.

We are always asked not to place any ’emotions’ or ‘attitude’ on the event, instead, look at it as ‘message’. When we react, we do not see clearly.

It is important to understand that we are not to manipulate or ‘get rid of’ the experience by gaining clarity of the messages. The message is there for us to learn, grow and move into greater freedom in ourselves and a deeper connection with the Divine Presence.

When we use metaphysical interpretation for any life events, we can get in touch with the key to moving though it and releasing it. Then we will surely find ourselves at a better place in our life.

Let me give you an example. I have a client who is often constipated. He has an obsession with regular bowel movement and often has trouble with his digestive system, stool and bowels to the point that he distorts facts and requests to have an enema to relieve his self-imposed constipation.

Louis L Hay suggests to ask oneself the question “What is it that I cannot digest?’ when it comes to digestive issues. In my observation, food and the digestive system are also related to nurturing or the lack of. Bowel movement and shifting stool is about releasing unwanted and poisonous elements from our system. Having issues in that area may suggest difficulty in letting go of fossilized, unsupportive thinking patters and belief system. Additionally, requesting that someone else ‘fixes’ the problem suggests an inability or unwillingness to deal with issues at hand.

Constant problems in this area suggests to me that the problem started in childhood around nurturing which was not healed so it became somewhat ‘indigestible’ and became and acute problem. I often find that people with digestive and weight issues have a problem with self-nurturing through eating healthier and taking care of their bodies in a loving manner.

Acute digestive system related issues also suggest difficulty in letting go and releasing a particular past events. When that occurs, we drag the past into the present and we ‘react’ from the pain and fear of the past to an event in the present.

SUGGESTIONS

If it was me, I would start both an inner and outer healing process through meditation, prayer and developing new and healthier habits. I would have a conversation with a therapist, a coach, or a pastor so to gain deeper understanding of what I am dealing with from the past. Then, I would use my prayer time to consciously, forgive and let go of thoughts, beliefs, and emotions associated with that past event or series of events. I would find meditations that help me move through a forgiveness process that is often the key to issues around lack of nurturing. At the end of each meditation and prayer session, I would give it all up and release it all into God or the Divine Presence, asking for support with my process and being lifted higher into greater health and freedom.

At the same time, I would look into – with the support of a coach, therapist or pastor – developing loving ways to nurture myself both inside and out.

Limitations and Awareness

Self-awareness is KEY to spiritual development and Self-Love

We all see the world through a filter that was mostly created in our childhood until about the age of 7. We created this filter as part of our self-protection. Most of us are not aware of this ‘mask’ or layer of personality because we often believe that this is who we are. Except that this is not true.

Who we are in our essence, this beautiful unique being, is often hidden behind the ‘mask’. Becoming aware of the different facets of the ‘mask’ or Ego can help us heal the wounds that created the ‘mask’ in the first place and recover our true identity.

In this podcast I talk about the different levels of self-awareness and how to go about gaining correct self-awareness. I also mention different ways to approach becoming aware of mask and limitations. I talk about the Enneagram system.

– sorry about the quality of the podcast, the filtering process diminished the quality 🙁 –

Self Love

A couple of years ago, I was interviewed by a lovely host on self-love. it is one of my favourite topics because I grew up with being taught how to hate myself. The society I grew up in was condemning and judgemental. People believed that by pointing out your faults would make you a strong and capable human being. Well, I don’t think it worked because at the age of 21 I had a nervous breakdown. This experience made me look for ‘other ways’ of becoming a strong and capable human being. I found that self-love does the trick! 🙂

Listen to our discussion and let me know what you think.

Ildiko@SIA · INTERVIEW ON SELF-LOVE

Confidence

This morning I was thinking about confidence. We regard confidence as one of the most desired personality trait but we fail to notice how confidence was built in the first place. Does your sense of confidence come from a place of ‘fear’ and self-defence? Or does it come from a place of ‘knowing who you are’ and connectedness of Spirit?

Listen to my thoughts here and let me know what you think.

thoughts on confidence

Ildiko@SIA · Confidence

Coaching can …

Why understanding oneself?

Recently I was asked why I approach spirituality from a coaching point of view. The answer is simple: You cannot know God until you know yourself. Coaching and personal development workshops/seminars are great tools to become aware of ourselves: who we are and who we are not. They are extremely important to differentiate!

Below is a blogpost I posted on another site of mine back in February. It is about the importance of self-awareness or the knowing of self in God.

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Be a more effective leader by understanding the three horizons of self-awareness.

The stories we make up
Stories are the foundation for how we make sense of the world. We could call these judgments or beliefs as well. Imagine that you get cut off by a car on the highway. In an instant, you might feel a flash of anger. Now imagine that you pull up next to the car and notice that the situation is different from what you expected. Maybe the driver is a teenager, obviously flustered and trying to concentrate. Maybe the driver is older but in the backseat is someone who, it appears, is injured. In either case, your stories about the situation would be updated in an instant.

For better and worse, our stories form the basis for how we make sense of the world. They are our thoughts, and they help us explain how the world is, how someone else is and how we ourselves are.

To get greater self-awareness around our stories, I find it’s best to simply start writing them down. Going back to a dedicated journal or notebook, start to articulate all the stories you’re making up, trying to get curious about how true they are. In the example, one story could have been, “This person is selfish,” and another could have been, “I feel angry because I’ve been disrespected.”

Source article: How to Develop Self-Awareness and Become a More Conscious and Effective Leader Source (click)

The above, once again, reminded me of the importance of developing self-awareness. Self-awareness, however, is not only important for CEOs so they become more efficient, everyone can greatly benefit from understanding who they are and what they truly want in their lives.

Self-awareness is a skill to be learnt. As children we are discouraged to observe ourselves and know ourselves. Instead we learn to defend our wounded parts with a false-self called the Ego.

I have been walking the journey of self-awareness and God-awareness for quite some time now. Over 20 years. I started my enquiry when I went to university, asking myself the question: Who am I? At that time, I thought that psychology held the answers to all my questions. Later, I attended various personal development and self-help courses to move from learning to applying. These seminars – Insight Seminars – helped me move beyond a mental understanding of myself and start healing and experimenting with newly discovered parts of me. Finally, I found a spiritual path – actually it is a combination of many paths – that supports me to connect with my higher-aspects, the Divinity in me that allows me to move beyond the mind and the physical. It helps me express and live a part of me that is part of ALL, that allows me to be in contact with the Divine presence, an energy field that encompasses it all. It makes me feel powerful and limitless.

Coaching assisted me to bring all this together. I keep on ‘working with myself’ as I call it on all levels, so I can keep on clearing up the clutter that hinders me from experiencing and expressing my Divinity whose source is God.

There are many useful tools that can support us to regain connection with ourselves. My coaching sessions and courses that are infused with spirituality based on Unity ideas, will take you on an artistic, creative and fun adventure within. At the end, you will arrive to a place of clarity and self-acceptance.

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