Contemplation Day9

40 Days of Letting Go, Letting God

From Release to Embrace

Rule 9

East, west, south, or north makes little difference. No matter what your destination, just be sure to make every journey, a journey within. If you travel within, you’ll visit the whole full World and beyond.”* 

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Today’s affirmation:  I choose to release self-pity and embrace forgiveness.

As I was contemplating on Rule No9 and today’s Lent message, I realized that …

For a long time, I looked at my life as a ‘punishment’  for something ‘I must have done wrong’. Throughout my life I have accoutered many challenges and difficulties. I left my home country as a youngster, moved to different countries, struggled with getting proper work and being able to sustain myself. After my grandmother’s passing I received little support from my family and I needed to rely on friends’ kindness. 

I lived with self-pity for decades. I believed that there was something wrong with me that’s why I had to endure so many hurdles in my life.

Not until I started to walk the inner journey, was I able to start to see the greater picture and the deeper meaning of my existence. For example, I would not be able to pastor and support people from various cultural backgrounds and ways of living had I not experienced these myself. 

LIFE is a mystery. I often do not know why I am going through a certain experience until it is done. The Divine is Gracious, however, if I want to know the ‘whys’, ‘he’ provides the answers. 

We all live meaningful lives but it is our responsibility to see what the meaning and the reasons behind our experiences. The simplest answer to ‘why me’ is because you are alive. Everyone who is alive is on a journey toward Oneness with the Divine Presence weather they are aware of it or not. 

What did you discover by contemplation on this rule and Lent reading?

in Loving and with many Blessings,
Rev Kudlik

Please note that though I may use ‘him’ or ‘his’ pronouns to talk about God/the Divine, it is only because the English language does not have a gender neutral pronoun. ‘They’ sounds odd to me to use and ‘it’ sounds lifeless. 

Source of heart picture, click

40 Days of Love – Day9

40 Days of Letting Go, Letting God

From Release to Embrace

Rule 9

East, west, south, or north makes little difference. No matter what your destination, just be sure to make every journey, a journey within. If you travel within, you’ll visit the whole full World and beyond.”* 

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Today, we are releasing self-pity and embracing God’s Love for us. 

Our Lent Booklet invites us today to release self-pity and move into forgiveness. Some situations or circumstances disappoint us. We feel that life is treating us unfairly asking “Oh, why me?” We have all been there.

You may find it odd, but when you feel like having a pity party, do it full tilt. Feel your emotions, cry, scream … do what it takes you move through the emotions. As you do that, you release self-pity. When you are complete, take time to go into the Silence. Take some deep breaths and allow Spirit to move through your entire being. Open your heart and mind to the living Spirit. Next, move into forgiveness of the whole situation, yourself included.

The next time, you may still feel disappointed, but you might choose to observe the situation with more neutrality, accept it, and forgive the mistakes and errors that this situation shows you.

As we wake up, we judge less, we forgive more.

Today, instead of a quote, I am sharing a short guided meditation on forgiveness with you. I hope you find it useful.

MEDITATION, CLICK HERE

Today we affirm:  I choose to release self-pit and embrace forgiveness.

Note : My writing is based on the book “40 Rules of Love” by by Elif Shafak (See more about the book here (click)  ( and The Lent booklet by Unity.org 

Personally, I think it is important to find the True meaning behind the word ‘LOVE’,  understand it and experience it as a Spiritual Quality inherently within us. 

I am going to walk this 40-day Lenten journey contemplating on the True meaning of Love, Divine Love, Spiritual Love for me by experimenting with the 40 rules and quotes from the Lent Booklet. Every day, between 

the 14th of February and the 28th of March 2024,

I will post a ‘rule’ from the book ’40 rules of Love’ and an a release idea from the book ’40 days of Let go, Let God – Lent 2024′ by Unity.org. Then, we will contemplate on it and share about it in the UNITY EUROPE Facebook Group (CLICK HERE).

Download the LENT BOOKLET @this link 2024 Lent English 

Let’s walk this journey together!

Join me by …

either reading the daily blogposts I create – SEE THEM HERE (CLICK) – or joining the FACEBOOK GROUP (CLICK) where I am going to share my writings and daily contemplative questions. I will also post a short video/audio material on the daily posts. (click on the buttons below to join)

Contemplation Day8

40 Days of Letting Go, Letting God

From Release to Embrace

Rule 8

Patience does not mean to endure passively. It means to look at the end of a process. What does tolerance mean? It means to look at the thorn and see the rose, to look at the night, and see the dawn. Impatience means to be shortsighted as not to be able to see the outcome. The lovers of God never run out of patience, for they know that time is needed for the crescent moon to become full.“* 

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Today’s affirmation: I hold a supportive thought of  the Truth of Life.

As I was contemplating on Rule No8 and today’s Lent message, I realized that …

As I child I leant to protect myself from the senselessness of the world around me by resisting. I learnt early on that people around me were either mentally ill or very confused. These were puzzling times because of the ‘Big Brother’ type of regime we lived in. We lived with a sense of terror because we never knew what to expect to happen the next day.

I learn to protect myself by holding my fists up and ready to punch. As soon as I feel insecure because of the confusion around me, I move into resistance and self-protection.

When I move into resistance, I lose sight of the bigger picture. I become impatient and want things to be different now! I move into controlling and fighting my circumstances which creates fiction and persist what I don’t want.

It has taken me – I am still working on releasing the underlying beliefs and behavioural patterns – a long time, to generate trust through the Knowing of God and be able to move with the flow of Life. 

We live in crazy times of wars, and conflicts at every turn. I still find it scary sometimes but I know better now. I know that there is a Guiding Light shining on me that supports me at every turn. 

What did you discover by contemplation on this rule and Lent reading?

in Loving and with many Blessings,
Rev Kudlik

Please note that though I may use ‘him’ or ‘his’ pronouns to talk about God/the Divine, it is only because the English language does not have a gender neutral pronoun. ‘They’ sounds odd to me to use and ‘it’ sounds lifeless. 

Source of heart picture, click

40 Days of Love – Day8

40 Days of Letting Go, Letting God

From Release to Embrace

Rule 8

Patience does not mean to endure passively. It means to look at the end of a process. What does tolerance mean? It means to look at the thorn and see the rose, to look at the night, and see the dawn. Impatience means to be shortsighted as not to be able to see the outcome. The lovers of God never run out of patience, for they know that time is needed for the crescent moon to become full.“* 

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Today, we are releasing resistance and embracing God’s Love for us. 

Our Lent Booklet invites us today to release resistance and flow with life.  I remember today a saying that I heard a long time ago: ” What you resist persist.” There reason why that happens is that resistance adds energy to the very things we don’t want. 

Instead of resistance we can move into the flow of life and gain an understanding of the underlying belief that created the unwanted situation. Resistance can show up in different ways. Sometimes, I want to avoid becoming aware of a behaviour that is destructive. Other times, I am in resistance to an experience, simply because it is uncomfortable. I learnt through out my life, that I cannot avoid these ‘learning moments’ and I had better move with the events at hand. After I have moved through them, I can release the limiting beliefs and cultivate a healthy spiritual practice of cleansing untruthful thoughts and turn them around to focus on Truth of Life.

Taoism is the Path of Least Resistance to Overcome Any Obstacle. The concept of flow, or Wu Wei, heavily advocates paying attention to nature and almost imitating how it functions, and how it flows. Taoism suggests that we should not try to swim against the current, as seems to be the way in Western society, but instead simply let the current take us where it pleases. Source

“Nature does not hurry, yet everything is accomplished.” -Lao Tzu

Today we affirm: I hold a supportive thought of  the Truth of Life.

Note : My writing is based on the book “40 Rules of Love” by by Elif Shafak (See more about the book here (click)  ( and The Lent booklet by Unity.org 

Personally, I think it is important to find the True meaning behind the word ‘LOVE’,  understand it and experience it as a Spiritual Quality inherently within us. 

I am going to walk this 40-day Lenten journey contemplating on the True meaning of Love, Divine Love, Spiritual Love for me by experimenting with the 40 rules and quotes from the Lent Booklet. Every day, between 

the 14th of February and the 28th of March 2024,

I will post a ‘rule’ from the book ’40 rules of Love’ and an a release idea from the book ’40 days of Let go, Let God – Lent 2024′ by Unity.org. Then, we will contemplate on it and share about it in the UNITY EUROPE Facebook Group (CLICK HERE).

Download the LENT BOOKLET @this link 2024 Lent English 

Let’s walk this journey together!

Join me by …

either reading the daily blogposts I create – SEE THEM HERE (CLICK) – or joining the FACEBOOK GROUP (CLICK) where I am going to share my writings and daily contemplative questions. I will also post a short video/audio material on the daily posts. (click on the buttons below to join)

Contemplation Day7

40 Days of Letting Go, Letting God

From Release to Embrace

Rule 7

Whatever happens in your life, no matter how troubling things might seem, do not enter the neighborhood of despair. Even when all doors remain closed, God will open up a new path only for you. Be thankful! It is easy to be grateful when all is well. A Sufi is thankful not only for what he has been given but also for all that he has been denied.”* 

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Today’s affirmation:  I give thanks for every opportunity
to grow and evolve

As I was contemplating on Rule No7 and today’s Lent message, I realized that …

Rule No7 could not have come at a better time. I am going through some challenges with work that is giving me plenty of opportunity to learn to make new decisions and let go of old beliefs.

In the meantime, however, I am both exhausted and upset (mostly with myself). I spend countless hours trying to figure out how to respond differently, but the truth is that most of what is happening around me is not my creation. I am only a ‘suffering’ bystander to others’ drama. 

Since I am in no position to change matters, I’d better go with the flow and count my blessings. Every situation has silver-linings and this is no exception. Today, I will spend time in silent contemplation and make a list of the elements of this situation that I am actually grateful for.

I have done gratitude journaling and I have also run Gratitude Art-journaling classes (click for more info), so I know very well how beneficial thankfulness is for both body and soul. 

What did you discover by contemplation on this rule and Lent reading?

in Loving and with many Blessings,
Rev Kudlik

Please note that though I may use ‘him’ or ‘his’ pronouns to talk about God/the Divine, it is only because the English language does not have a gender neutral pronoun. ‘They’ sounds odd to me to use and ‘it’ sounds lifeless. 

Source of heart picture, click

40 Days of Love – Day7

40 Days of Letting Go, Letting God

From Release to Embrace

Rule 7

Whatever happens in your life, no matter how troubling things might seem, do not enter the neighborhood of despair. Even when all doors remain closed, God will open up a new path only for you. Be thankful! It is easy to be grateful when all is well. A Sufi is thankful not only for what he has been given but also for all that he has been denied.”* 

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Today, we are releasing stress and embracing God’s Love for us. 

Our Lent Booklet invites us today to release

We live in an ever changing fast world that is full of opportunities for us to feel stressed and overwhelmed. I sometimes react to unexpected situations with a sense of stress or even anxiety. 

Though I often cannot change the circumstances of an event, I can still chose my reaction to the external situations.

Life is not the sum of random events but a permanent and continuous offer of possibilities to grow and evolve. I can assume that stressful moments are blessed opportunities to find stillness and peace within. 

I can chose to retrieve and move into my sacred inner sanctuary where I can connect the peace and stillness of the divine Presence. By. In doing so, agitation subsides, disturbing thoughts relax, emotions become calm and serene. The peace of Spirit blesses me.

“To the mind that is still, the whole universe surrenders.” Lao Tzu

“Returning to the source is stillness, which is the way of nature. The way of nature is unchanging knowing constancy is insight.” Lao Tzu

Today we affirm:  I give thanks for every opportunity
to grow and evolve

 

Note : My writing is based on the book “40 Rules of Love” by by Elif Shafak (See more about the book here (click)  ( and The Lent booklet by Unity.org 

Personally, I think it is important to find the True meaning behind the word ‘LOVE’,  understand it and experience it as a Spiritual Quality inherently within us. 

I am going to walk this 40-day Lenten journey contemplating on the True meaning of Love, Divine Love, Spiritual Love for me by experimenting with the 40 rules and quotes from the Lent Booklet. Every day, between 

the 14th of February and the 28th of March 2024,

I will post a ‘rule’ from the book ’40 rules of Love’ and an a release idea from the book ’40 days of Let go, Let God – Lent 2024′ by Unity.org. Then, we will contemplate on it and share about it in the UNITY EUROPE Facebook Group (CLICK HERE).

Download the LENT BOOKLET @this link 2024 Lent English 

Let’s walk this journey together!

Join me by …

either reading the daily blogposts I create – SEE THEM HERE (CLICK) – or joining the FACEBOOK GROUP (CLICK) where I am going to share my writings and daily contemplative questions. I will also post a short video/audio material on the daily posts. (click on the buttons below to join)

Contemplation Day6

40 Days of Letting Go, Letting God

From Release to Embrace

Rule 6

Loneliness and solitude are two different things. When you are lonely, it is easy to delude yourself into believing that you are on the right path. Isolation is better for us, as it means being alone without feeling lonely. But eventually, it is best to find a person who will be your mirror. Remember only in another person’s heart can you truly see yourself and the Presence of God within you.”*

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Today’s affirmation:I release the weight of limitation and soar
beyond every obstacle with confidence and grace.

What really spoke to me today was a part of Rule N6: But eventually, it is best to find a person who will be your mirror. Remember only in another person’s heart can you truly see yourself and the Presence of God within you.

For me the above does not refer to intimate-love-relationships with a lover. It is  about have relationships with other people in general. I believe that everyone we form a relationship with will be our mirror. Sometimes, this mirror shows us aspects of ourselves that is painful to see. Still, if we are willing to keep on looking into it, we are able to become aware of the limitations that this mirror shows us, elements of our personality that block us from receiving God’s ever present Loving for us. As soon as we realise what the blockage is, we can release and let it go. 

Some other time, we form relationships with people who remind us how great we are. Not remembering our own goodness and uniqueness is also a limitation that we probably picked up in our childhood. These relationships are the sweetest because we can bask in God’s Loving through the eye of another.

The most important relationship, however, we can have with with God. It may sound strange but the only way to form a relationship with the Divine Presence is through Loving ourselves. As we form a humble, intimate, kind, and loving relationship with ourselves, the more we are able to feel God’s Loving Care for us. 

What did you discover by contemplation on this rule and Lent reading?

in Loving and with many Blessings,
Rev Kudlik

Please note that though I may use ‘him’ or ‘his’ pronouns to talk about God/the Divine, it is only because the English language does not have a gender neutral pronoun. They sounds odd to me to use and it sounds lifeless. 

40 Days of Love – Day6

40 Days of Letting Go, Letting God

From Release to Embrace

Rule 6

Loneliness and solitude are two different things. When you are lonely, it is easy to delude yourself into believing that you are on the right path. Isolation is better for us, as it means being alone without feeling lonely. But eventually, it is best to find a person who will be your mirror. Remember only in another person’s heart can you truly see yourself and the Presence of God within you..”*

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Today, we are releasing limitation and embracing God’s Love for us. 

Our Lent Booklet invites us today to release any limitations that no longer serve the life we want to live.

We are reminded that our potential is boundless, waiting four us to shed the fears that hold us back.

We can learn to trust the strength already within us by keep on testing the waters, stepping outside our comfort-zone and staying there long enough to change.

Let go and soar with the winds of change, for you are meant to thrive beyond your wildest imagination. Re Kathy Beasley 

 

This that is tormented and very tired,
tortured with restraints like a madman,
this heart.
Still you keep breaking the shell
to get the taste of its kernel! Rumi

 

I can do all things through him who strengthens me. Philippians 4:13

 

Today we affirm: I release the weight of limitation and soar
beyond every obstacle with confidence and grace.

Note : My writing is based on the book “40 Rules of Love” by by Elif Shafak and The Lent booklet by Unity.org 

Personally, I think it is important to find the True meaning behind the word ‘LOVE’,  understand it and experience it as a Spiritual Quality inherently within us. 

I am going to walk this 40-day Lenten journey contemplating on the True meaning of Love, Divine Love, Spiritual Love for me by experimenting with the 40 rules and quotes from the Lent Booklet. Every day, between 

the 14th of February and the 28th of March 2024,

I will post a ‘rule’ from the book ’40 rules of Love’ and an a release idea from the book ’40 days of Let go, Let God – Lent 2024′ by Unity.org. Then, we will contemplate on it and share about it in the UNITY EUROPE Facebook Group (CLICK HERE).

Download the LENT BOOKLET @this link 2024 Lent English 

Let’s walk this journey together!

Join me by …

either reading the daily blogposts I create – SEE THEM HERE (CLICK) – or joining the FACEBOOK GROUP (CLICK) where I am going to share my writings and daily contemplative questions. I will also post a short video/audio material on the daily posts. (click on the buttons below to join)

Contemplation Day5

40 Days of Letting Go, Letting God

From Release to Embrace

Rule 4

Intellect and Love are made of different materials. Intellect ties people in knots and risks nothing, but love dissolves all tangles and risks everything. Intellect is always cautious and advises, ‘Beware too much ecstasy,’ whereas Love says, ‘Oh, never mind! Take the plunge!’ Intelligence does not easily break down, whereas Love can effortlessly reduce itself to rubble. But treasures are hidden among ruins. A broken heart hides treasures.

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Today’s affirmation: I release my limited Ego so I can return to Oneness with the Greatest Love.

As I was contemplating on Rule No1 and today’s Lent message, I realized that …

I often find that we talk about the Ego as something Evil that we should ‘destroy’ in ourselves so to reach enlightenment.

In my view, Ego is a collection of Limitations and error-thoughts that is often collectively called the Devil; aspects of ourselves that support us to learn and grow. All is God and so all is good. Nothing is to be condemned. At the same time, we are to move through and overcome these limitations so to get closer to the Divine Presence.

All the great masters, gurus and teachers had an Ego and lessons to learn or overcome. No human is perfect, no matter how enlightened they are. I love the way Jesus is depicted in the Bible because it shows his humanity. He was Loving man with a temperament. He was sometimes abrupt and impatient. 

Awareness is key. We need to decide for ourselves what limits us to get closer to the Divine Presence.

Now, when I look at my fears and how I try to control the world around so I feel safer, I understand that I do not allow God to love and support me. When I allow my scared Ego to run my life, I notice that I ‘move’ God to the side and tell him “move away, I am dealing with this!’. This behaviour shows lack of trust and my Ego’s insistence on having ‘her’ own way. 

With awareness I can make a different choice. I can simply observe the fear and keep on inviting the Divine Presence to walk with me and support me. As I release this fearful aspect of my Ego into the ‘Light’ or the nothingness, I get closer to God who is always happy to guide me and lift me up in return. 

What did you discover by contemplation on this rule and Lent reading?

in Loving and with many Blessings,
Rev Kudlik

Please note that though I may use ‘him’ or ‘his’ pronouns to talk about God/the Divine, it is only because the English language does not have a gender neutral pronoun. They sounds odd to me to use and it sounds lifeless. 

40 Days of Love – Day5

40 Days of Letting Go, Letting God

From Release to Embrace

Rule 5

Most of the problems of the world stem from linguistic mistakes and simple misunderstandings. Don’t ever take words at face value. When you step into the zone of Love, language, as we know it, becomes obsolete. That which cannot be put into words can only be grasped through silence.”

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Today, we are releasing our Ego/Naf and embracing God’s Love for us. 

“Kill the cow of your ego as quickly as you can, so that your inner spirit can come to life and attain true awareness.” Rumi

Our Lent Booklet invites us today to release the temptations of our Ego who only strives for selfish satisfaction. The Ego simply wants to ensure its superiority to others and feels threatened when felling powerless. 

In Unity, the Devil symbolizes mass consciousness or human thoughts adverse to divine good. Jesus’ temptation was a battle within himself, with his ego and will. He was learning to forgo using his spiritual power—the same potential born in each of us.

12 When he had finished washing their feet, he put on his clothes and returned to his place. “Do you understand what I have done for you?” he asked them. 13 “You call me ‘Teacher’ and ‘Lord,’ and rightly so, for that is what I am. 14 Now that I, your Lord and Teacher, have washed your feet, you also should wash one another’s feet. 15 I have set you an example that you should do as I have done for you. 16 Very truly I tell you, no servant is greater than his master, nor is a messenger greater than the one who sent him. 17 Now that you know these things, you will be blessed if you do them.” John 13:12-17

Today, I invite you to contemplate on Rule No5 and the quote below. Let me know how practicing releasing your Ego worked for you today. 

Today we affirm: I release my limited Ego so I can return to Oneness with the Greatest Love.

Note : My writing is based on the book “40 Rules of Love” by by Elif Shafak and The Lent booklet 2024 by Unity.org 

Seven stages of the Ego

The first stage is the Depraved Ego (Nafs), the most primitive and common state of being, when the soul is entrapped in worldly pursuits. Most human beings are stuck there, struggling and suffering in the service of their ego but always holding others responsible for their continuing unhappiness. If and when a person becomes aware of the ego’s abased situation, by starting to work on himself, he can move to the next stage, which in a way is the opposite of the previous one. Instead of blaming other people all the time, the person who has reached this stage blames himself, sometimes to the point of self effacement.

Herein the ego becomes the Accusing Nafs and thus starts the journey toward inner purification.

In the third stage, the person is more mature and the ego has evolved into the Inspired Nafs. It is only at this level, and not anytime before, that one can experience the true meaning of the word “surrender” and roam the Valley of Knowledge. Anyone who has made it this far will possess and display patience, perseverance, wisdom, and humility. The world will feel new and full of inspiration. Nevertheless, many of the people who reach the third level feel an urge to dwell here, losing the will or the courage to go further. That is why, as beautiful and blessed as it is, the third stage is a trap for the one who aims higher.

Those who manage to go further, reach the Valley of Wisdom and come to know the Serene Nafs. Here the ego is not what it used to be, having altered into a high level of consciousness. Generosity, gratitude, and an unwavering sense of contentment regardless of the hardships in life are the main characteristics accompanying anyone who has arrived here.

Beyond that lies the Valley of Unity. Those who are here will be pleased with whatever situation God places them in. Mundane matters make no difference to them, as they have achieved the Pleased Nafs.

In the next stage, the Pleasing Nafs, one becomes a lantern to humanity, radiating energy to everyone who asks for it, teaching and illuminating like a true master. Sometimes such a person can also have healing powers. Wherever he goes, he will make a big difference in other people’s lives. In everything he does and aspires to do, his main goal is to serve God through serving others.

Finally, in the seventh stage, one attains the Purified Nafs and becomes Insan-i Kâmil, a perfect human being. But nobody knows much about that state, and even if a few ever did, they wouldn’t speak of it.

The stages along the path are easy to summarize, difficult to experience. Adding to the obstacles that appear along the way is the fact that there is no guarantee of continuous progress. The route from the first to the last stage is by no means linear. There is always the danger of tumbling back into earlier stages, sometimes even from a superior stage all the way down to the first one. Given the many traps along the way, it is no wonder that in every century only a few people manage to reach the final stages. 

 

Excerpted from Elif Shafak’s Forty Rules of Love.

Source

Personally, I think it is important to find the True meaning behind the word ‘LOVE’,  understand it and experience it as a Spiritual Quality inherently within us. 

I am going to walk this 40-day Lenten journey contemplating on the True meaning of Love, Divine Love, Spiritual Love for me by experimenting with the 40 rules and quotes from the Lent Booklet. Every day, between 

the 14th of February and the 28th of March 2024,

I will post a ‘rule’ from the book ’40 rules of Love’ and an a release idea from the book ’40 days of Let go, Let God – Lent 2024′ by Unity.org. Then, we will contemplate on it and share about it in the UNITY EUROPE Facebook Group (CLICK HERE).

Download the LENT BOOKLET @this link 2024 Lent English 

Let’s walk this journey together!

Join me by …

either reading the daily blogposts I create – SEE THEM HERE (CLICK) – or joining the FACEBOOK GROUP (CLICK) where I am going to share my writings and daily contemplative questions. I will also post a short video/audio material on the daily posts. (click on the buttons below to join)

Contemplation Day4

40 Days of Letting Go, Letting God

From Release to Embrace

Rule 4

Intellect and Love are made of different materials. Intellect ties people in knots and risks nothing, but love dissolves all tangles and risks everything. Intellect is always cautious and advises, ‘Beware too much ecstasy,’ whereas Love says, ‘Oh, never mind! Take the plunge!’ Intelligence does not easily break down, whereas Love can effortlessly reduce itself to rubble. But treasures are hidden among ruins. A broken heart hides treasures.

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Today’s affirmation:  I let go into the very presence of God’s love
within me, and I am made whole and well and free

As I was contemplating on Rule No1 and today’s Lent message, I realized that …

Following Love instead of Intelligence has been a long and arduous journey for me. 🙂 Blessed are the meek, for they will inherit the earth. Matt 5:5 I come from a long line of well-educated intellectuals who valued smartness the best amongst attributes. As a result I only sought after endeavours that made me smarter or gave me additional knowledge. 

This is how, at first, I approached spirituality. I thought I would learn about the nature of the Divine and so I will understand myself and others more. It took me a long time to realize that God cannot be known, only experienced.

The intellect is always limited by its fears. Until I approached knowing the Divine with my intellect I could only see what I was taught about God. In my case, it was a ‘righteous and angry old guy who does not like naughty children’.

When I allowed myself to follow the river of Loving – a strong energy current – in meditation, I started to experience myself freer and in a way whole again in the Oneness with ‘him’. It is rather difficult to write about inner experiences so I suggest you find it our for yourself. 🙂 

What did you discover by contemplation on this rule and Lent reading?

in Loving and with many Blessings,
Rev Kudlik

Please note that though I may use ‘him’ or ‘his’ pronouns to talk about God/the Divine, it is only because the English language does not have a gender neutral pronoun. They sounds odd to me to use and it sounds lifeless. 

40 Days of Love – Day4

40 Days of Letting Go, Letting God

From Release to Embrace

Rule 4

Intellect and Love are made of different materials. Intellect ties people in knots and risks nothing, but love dissolves all tangles and risks everything. Intellect is always cautious and advises, ‘Beware too much ecstasy,’ whereas Love says, ‘Oh, never mind! Take the plunge!’ Intelligence does not easily break down, whereas Love can effortlessly reduce itself to rubble. But treasures are hidden among ruins. A broken heart hides treasures.

 

Today, we are releasing sorrow and embracing God’s Love for us. 

Our Lent Booklet Invites us today to reminded that the only way out of a sense of loss and sorrow is to walk through it. As we release those we have lost, we experience grief but are also left with precious memories. Today, we remember, that the pain fades with our releasing our loved ones into Love’s embrace, into eternal life. Our positive memories create a living legacy for them. 

I will turn their mourning into joy, I will comfort them,
and give them gladness for sorrow.—Jeremiah 31:13

Today we affirm:  I let go into the very presence of God’s love
within me, and I am made whole and well and free

Note : My writing is based on the book “40 Rules of Love” by by Elif Shafak and The Lent booklet by Unity.org 

Personally, I think it is important to find the True meaning behind the word ‘LOVE’,  understand it and experience it as a Spiritual Quality inherently within us. 

I am going to walk this 40-day Lenten journey contemplating on the True meaning of Love, Divine Love, Spiritual Love for me by experimenting with the 40 rules and quotes from the Lent Booklet. Every day, between 

the 14th of February and the 28th of March 2024,

I will post a ‘rule’ from the book ’40 rules of Love’ and an a release idea from the book ’40 days of Let go, Let God – Lent 2024′ by Unity.org. Then, we will contemplate on it and share about it in the UNITY EUROPE Facebook Group (CLICK HERE).

Download the LENT BOOKLET @this link 2024 Lent English 

Let’s walk this journey together!

Join me by …

either reading the daily blogposts I create – SEE THEM HERE (CLICK) – or joining the FACEBOOK GROUP (CLICK) where I am going to share my writings and daily contemplative questions. I will also post a short video/audio material on the daily posts. (click on the buttons below to join)

Contemplation Day3

40 Days of Letting Go, Letting God

From Release to Embrace

Rule 3

You can study God through everything and everyone in the universe because God is not confined in a mosque, synagogue, or church. But if you are still in need of knowing where exactly His abode is, there is only one place to look for him: in the heart of a true lover.“* 

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Today’s affirmation: I release my expectations. I refrain from complaining. I can see the silver-lining in every situation.

As I was contemplating on Rule No1 and today’s Lent message, I realized that …

…when I was young, in my teens, I often went to the church towering right in front of our apartment complex. I did not go to pray because I did not know how to pray. I went there because I was told that God lived in there and I wanted to give God a piece of my mind.

I was having a hard time like most teenagers do and because I was told that God was the great fixer, I went to complain about my miserable existence.

” …there is only one place to look for him: in the heart of a true lover.”

Much later, after I have started to meditate, I realized that the Divine is not a person but a being who’s spark resides within me and if I ever wanted God to hear me, I only needed to close my eyes, turn my attention within into my spiritual heart centre which is in the middle of my forehead or third eye centre and call upon ‘him’.  I also stopped complaining – not completely 🙂 but much less -, instead, I ask God to show me where I limit myself and help me become aware of how I am creating ‘misery’ for myself.

What did you discover by contemplation on this rule and Lent reading?

in Loving and with many Blessings,
Rev Kudlik

Please note that though I may use ‘him’ or ‘his’ pronouns to talk about God/the Divine, it is only because the English language does not have a gender neutral pronoun. They sounds odd to me to use and it sounds lifeless. 

40 Days of Love – Day3

40 Days of Letting Go, Letting God

From Release to Embrace

Rule 3

You can study God through everything and everyone in the universe because God is not confined in a mosque, synagogue, or church. But if you are still in need of knowing where exactly His abode is, there is only one place to look for him: in the heart of a true lover.“* 

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Today, we are releasing complaining and embracing God’s Love for us. 

Our Lent Booklet Invites us today to contemplate on the following question today: 

How many of us complain to get sympathy, attention, or to
avoid something we’re afraid of doing?

Don’t complain about Autumn.
Walk with grief like a good friend. Listen to what it says.
Sometimes the cold and dark of a cave give the opening we most want.
Rumi

Today, I invite you to contemplate on the Rule No3, the question and the  poem above and the quote below. 🙂 Let me know how practicing releasing complaining worked for you. 

“If you are irritated by every rub, how will your mirror be polished?” ― Rumi

Today we affirm: I release my expectations. I refrain from complaining. I can see the silver-lining in every situation.

Note : My writing is based on the book “40 Rules of Love” by by Elif Shafak and The Lent booklet by Unity.org 

Personally, I think it is important to find the True meaning behind the word ‘LOVE’,  understand it and experience it as a Spiritual Quality inherently within us. 

I am going to walk this 40-day Lenten journey contemplating on the True meaning of Love, Divine Love, Spiritual Love for me by experimenting with the 40 rules and quotes from the Lent Booklet. Every day, between 

the 14th of February and the 28th of March 2024,

I will post a ‘rule’ from the book ’40 rules of Love’ and an a release idea from the book ’40 days of Let go, Let God – Lent 2024′ by Unity.org. Then, we will contemplate on it and share about it in the UNITY EUROPE Facebook Group (CLICK HERE).

Download the LENT BOOKLET @this link 2024 Lent English 

Let’s walk this journey together!

Join me by …

either reading the daily blogposts I create – SEE THEM HERE (CLICK) – or joining the FACEBOOK GROUP (CLICK) where I am going to share my writings and daily contemplative questions. I will also post a short video/audio material on the daily posts. (click on the buttons below to join)

Contemplation Day2

40 Days of Letting Go, Letting God

From Release to Embrace

RULE 1

The path to the Truth is a labor of the heart, not of the head. Make your heart your primary guide! Not your mind. Meet, challenge, and ultimately prevail over your nafs (false ego) with your heart. Knowing your false ego will lead you to the Knowledge of God.

Today’s affirmation:  I let go of old grievances and allow God’s love
to heal my body, mind, and spirit.

As I was contemplating on Rule No1 and today’s Lent message, I realized that …

Recently, I have been looking back on past events that seems to have had a great impact on how I saw myself. Between the age of about 10 and 18, I had teachers who told me that I was stupid and useless. Eventually, I believed them and started to see myself the way they saw me. As a result I became very angry with myself and with the world who in my understanding forced a false sense of self on me.

I found myself being separate from my own self. It took me years of soul-searching and healing to recover my sense of True Self in the Divine, the person who I have always been but forgot about for a while. For that, I needed to learn to see myself and the world through the eyes of the Heart, with compassion.

Having been resentful towards these teachers for decades only resulted in more pain over events that I could not change. The Ego/Nafs always wants revenge, wants the wrong-doer to be punished, and the suppressed to triumph. In the world of the Heart, however, there is no separation. I forgave myself for having allowed others’ opinion of me become the way I saw myself. I released the past with all its pain, anger, resentment and in return I rediscovered myself in Love.

What did you discover by contemplation on this rule and Lent Reading?

in Loving and with many Blessings,
Rev Kudlik

40 Days of Love – Day2

40 Days of Letting Go, Letting God

From Release to Embrace

Introduction to 40 Days of Lent – From Release to Embrace

Rule 2

The path to the Truth is a labor of the heart, not of the head. Make your heart your primary guide! Not your mind. Meet, challenge, and ultimately prevail over your nafs (false ego) with your heart. Knowing your false ego will lead you to the Knowledge of God.

 

Today, we are releasing resentment and embracing God’s Love for us. 

Our Lent Booklet invites us today to release and let go of resentment. Resentment keeps us in the past because we are holding onto some past grievances. With that, we keep the bittiness of old wounds present and alive. As you look at the root of the word, you can see how it works: ‘ re-sense’ or ‘feel again’, we recycle the negative emotions attached to an event that happened in the past. These negative thoughts and emotions form block in the way of our well-being, personal and spiritual upliftment. 

What we can do is move into prayer. Through prayer and/or prayerful meditation we move our consciousness more in alignment of the Greatest Love of the Divine Present. With that we find that we can forgive, heal and let go.

The willingness to let go of resentment allows God/Divine Presence within to do the rest, healing mind, body, and soul.

Today, I invite you to contemplate on the Rule No2 and the quote below. Let me know how practicing releasing resentment worked for you. 

” … unforgiveness, bitterness and resentment, it blocks the flows of God’s blessings in life.”  Ja Rule

Today we affirm: I let go of old grievances and allow God’s love
to heal my body, mind, and spirit.

Note : My writing is based on the book “40 Rules of Love” by by Elif Shafak and The Lent booklet by Unity.org 

Personally, I think it is important to find the True meaning behind the word ‘LOVE’,  understand it and experience it as a Spiritual Quality inherently within us. 

I am going to walk this 40-day Lenten journey contemplating on the True meaning of Love, Divine Love, Spiritual Love for me by experimenting with the 40 rules and quotes from the Lent Booklet. Every day, between 

the 14th of February and the 28th of March 2024,

I will post a ‘rule’ from the book ’40 rules of Love’ and an a release idea from the book ’40 days of Let go, Let God – Lent 2024′ by Unity.org. Then, we will contemplate on it and share about it in the UNITY EUROPE Facebook Group (CLICK HERE).

Download the LENT BOOKLET @this link 2024 Lent English 

Let’s walk this journey together!

Join me by …

either reading the daily blogposts I create – SEE THEM HERE (CLICK) – or joining the FACEBOOK GROUP (CLICK) where I am going to share my writings and daily contemplative questions. I will also post a short video/audio material on the daily posts. (click on the buttons below to join)

Contemplation Day1

40 Days of Letting Go, Letting God

From Release to Embrace

RULE 1

How we see God is a direct reflection of how we see ourselves. If God brings to mind mostly fear and blame, it means there is too much fear and blame swelled inside us. If we see God as full of Love and compassion, so are we.

Today’s affirmation: I embrace my Christ nature and shower myself with compassion and love.

As I was contemplating on Rule No1 and today’s Lent message, I realized that …

Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God; and everyone who loves is born of God and knows God. (NASB) I JOHN 4:7

This verse from the Bible states beautifully that the only way to God/the Divine Presence is through Love. This Love, however, is not a romantic notion. It is a strong commitment of putting God first in our lives and as Jesus commanded in the ‘rich man’ parables, we must let go all our attachment and move into a Loving place within ourselves that is called Oneness.

Being in Loving, for me is becoming aware of my reactions and attachments then releasing them into the ‘nothingness’. It is a strong sense of willingness to move to a neutral place within myself where I am OK with the world, and I am OK with myself. First of all, I love myself just as I am without judging or condemning myself for the mistakes I make. “and lead us not into temptation.” (Luke 11:4)

Secondly, I move into acceptance with the world knowing that regardless of how it appears, it is part of God’s Divine Creation. “ On Earth as it is in heaven” (Mat 6:10) Knowing that Creation is in constant movement towards its Source which is Goodness.

Though God is Love and Good, it does not mean that we only experience ‘good or fuzzy feelings’ all the time. As we turn our consciousness back towards God/the Divine Presence we start experiencing discomfort, fear and resistance to move on. The limitations that we – often unknowingly – place on ourselves and the beliefs that we act upon can create difficult experiences for us.

It is not God’s job to save us, however. God is ever present, ever Loving and ever calling us to turn back to him so we can bask in ‘his’ Goodness. It is our responsibility to commit and find the way back to his Grace. As we become aware of what separates us from the Divine Loving, we can now choose to release and let go of these hurdles.

in Loving and with many Blessings,
Rev Kudlik

Read: DAY1, 40 Rules of Love, from Release to Embrace (click)

40 Days of Love – Day1

40 Days of Letting Go, Letting God

From Release to Embrace

Introduction to 40 Days of Lent – From Release to Embrace

Rule 1

How we see God is a direct reflection of how we see ourselves. If God brings to mind mostly fear and blame, it means there is too much fear and blame swelled inside us. If we see God as full of Love and compassion, so are we.“* 

ASH WEDNESDAY

Today, we are releasing shame and embracing God’s Love for us. 

Our Lent Booklet Invites us today – on Ash Wednesday – to release and let go of shame.

Shame makes as believe that we are unworthy of love, care and belonging. The stronger we believe that we are shameful because of our mistakes, the more we fall into the trap of shame and guilt. As a result, we feel more and more unworthy and separated from the Source of Great Love, God/the Divine Presence. It also keeps us from fully being vulnerable and connecting with others at deeper levels. On this first day of Lent, we can seek to heal our self-judgments and grow in our capacity for self-love. 

We all have a spark of the Divine within ourselves. We can create a spiritual practice that deepens our connectedness to the Divine. As we show ourselves self-compassion we rebuild our relationship with ourselves and builds our faith in our wholeness and our divine identity. .

When we see ourselves through the lenses of shame, we believe that God/the Divine Presence has deserted us in our hour of need. God/the Divine Presence cannot repair this ‘mistaken thought’, we do that by allowing ourselves to be loved. We can choose to embrace ourselves by saying: “I have made mistakes, I am human. I accept myself as I am, with all my mistakes. I am loved.”

Today, I invite you to contemplate on the Rule No1 and the quote below. Let me know how practicing releasing shame worked for you. 

The Water said to the dirty one, “Come here.” The dirty one said, “I am too ashamed.” The water replied, “How will your shame be washed away without me? (source)

Today we affirm: I embrace my Divine nature with compassion and love

Note : My writing is based on the book “40 Rules of Love” by by Elif Shafak and The Lent booklet by Unity.org 

Personally, I think it is important to find the True meaning behind the word ‘LOVE’,  understand it and experience it as a Spiritual Quality inherently within us. 

I am going to walk this 40-day Lenten journey contemplating on the True meaning of Love, Divine Love, Spiritual Love for me by experimenting with the 40 rules and quotes from the Lent Booklet. Every day, between 

the 14th of February and the 28th of March 2024,

I will post a ‘rule’ from the book ’40 rules of Love’ and an a release idea from the book ’40 days of Let go, Let God – Lent 2024′ by Unity.org. Then, we will contemplate on it and share about it in the UNITY EUROPE Facebook Group (CLICK HERE).

Download the LENT BOOKLET @this link 2024 Lent English 

Let’s walk this journey together!

Join me by …

either reading the daily blogposts I create – SEE THEM HERE (CLICK) – or joining the FACEBOOK GROUP (CLICK) where I am going to share my writings and daily contemplative questions. I will also post a short video/audio material on the daily posts. (click on the buttons below to join)

40 Days of Love

40 Days of Letting Go, Letting God

From Release to Embrace

An Introduction

What is it about? 

As I was looking for some material for contemplation for LENT this year, I decided to meditate and contemplate of some quotes from a book called ’40 Rules of Love’ by Elif Shafak. CLICK HERE (Read more about the book below. )

Background 

At first, I thought that Shams Tabrizi wrote a book – which is very unlikely – and started to look for his ‘rulebook on Love’. Since he was a rather particular 13th century Sufi Mystic known for being the teacher of Rumi, I thought,  that he might have left some notes behind which served as a base for the book. Well, nothing like that. The book – 40 Rules of Love  – is a fictional story. It is a story of Love, on Shams and Rumi, but most importantly the book offers 40 so called ‘rules’ on how to live a Spirit-filled Life.

I have collected some information on Shams’ Life and his impact on Rumi’s Spiritual unfoldment that you can read HERE

As I was reading the book, I have fallen in love with both the story and the ‘rules.  I found them thoughtful and deep. Each one made me think. They reminded me how much we are attached to the phantasy of rom-coms that tell nothing about the Truth of Love. They do not make it real or even believable. But there is a kind of Love that is beyond the warm and fuzzy emotions and fantasies, a Love that Rumi and Shams wrote so beautifully about.  

We often spend countless hours trying to find love in another person or in the world but what we fail to see is that the Love we are so desperately searching for is right there within ourselves. It has always been there. We only need to discover it or uncover it, more like.

Personally, I think it is important to find the True meaning behind the word ‘LOVE’,  understand it and experience it as a Spiritual Quality inherently within us. 

I am going to walk this 40-day Lenten journey contemplating on the True meaning of Love, Divine Love, Spiritual Love for me by experimenting with the 40 rules and quotes from the Lent Booklet. Every day, between 

the 14th of February and the 28th of March 2024,

I will post a ‘rule’ from the book ’40 rules of Love’ and an a release idea from the book ’40 days of Let go, Let God – Lent 2024′ by Unity.org. Then, we will contemplate on it and share about it in the UNITY EUROPE Facebook Group (CLICK HERE).

Download the LENT BOOKLET @this link 2024 Lent English 

Let’s walk this journey together!

Join me by …

either reading the daily blogposts I create – SEE THEM HERE (CLICK) – or joining the FACEBOOK GROUP (CLICK) where I am going to share my writings and daily contemplative questions. I will also post a short video/audio material on the daily posts. (click on the buttons below to join)